“I know she cheated. But what you need to do is pursue her like Christ did His Bride, the Church,” says naive Christian leader. The pursuit advice is trash. In my opinion, the last thing a narcissistic adulteress needs is more suitors fawning over her. She does not need to be treated as the prize … The post That pursuit advice is trash. appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

 21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.  -Mark 7:21-22, NLT “Experts” sometimes suggest treating cheating as a symptom of problems in the marriage. That isn’t biblical. Jesus is crystal clear where adultery originates: The heart of the … The post Symptom…OF EVIL IN THE HEART! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

“She’s just a friend.” “It was only one kiss.” “I was drunk; it doesn’t mean anything.” Cheaters minimize. It is what they do. In fact, I think that is what we all do as sinners to some extent. We struggle to face the reality of our sins. The Enemy often uses this strategy to keep … The post They minimize. appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Recently, I discovered this gem of a song, “He Set Her Off.” While I do not advocate the behavior outlined in this song, I do find it an oddly satisfying listen. Enjoy! The post Another Revenge Country Song appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

“You have more biblical reason to divorce me,” says (cheating) partner as mask slips. Sometimes, you might get an unexpected confession from your Cheater. The mask occasionally slips. How can it not at some point? It has to be exhausting keeping up their house of lies. Gaslighting takes some real effort. Double lives don’t “just … The post Unexpected Confessions appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. -Genesis 3:6, NKJV Forbidden Fruit I think part of the thrill Cheaters get from cheating is the forbidden … The post Forbidden Fruit appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

8 Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce…. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NKJV Now, over a decade ago, I started this ministry for people dealing with infidelity abuse. One might think taking adultery seriously would be uncontroversial of … The post “Taking Adultery Seriously” Still appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

But Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also; neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, NKJV I do not know if it is demonic or simply human nature to harden one’s heart to God’s ways. Here in the story of the Exodus, it seems simply a human function. Some people will harden their … The post Hardened their hearts appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Naively, I thought I’d be a “miracle story” until the end of my first marriage. That is probably why it hit so hard when the divorce was finalized. I never wanted the divorce. If left to my own devices, I probably … The post Grateful for what I did not want appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Deep in my psyche must be a distaste for the consumer-driven app world of dating–that’s what my dream life brought up this past night. I am a happily married man who does not want all the drama of sorting through girlfriend drama. It might be my introvert nature. However, the thought of entering that world … The post Another loss – say the thing! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more