Have you ever used alcohol as a coping mechanism to escape a dysfunctional relationship or unhealthy environment?  You might be a victim of gaslighting if you’ve been told that you’re imagining things, too sensitive, dramatic, overreacting, forgetful, paranoid, confused, insecure or misinterpreting things.  And if you’re drinking it’s easy for someone to say “you’re drunk, you don’t know what you’re talking about” or “you were drinking, you don’t remember what happened.” Without clear memories you’re more vulnerable to someone undermining your confidence, confusing and invalidating ..read more

Have you thought about taking a break from drinking but then decided that you’re “just not ready yet” to do it? Even if we know that alcohol is dragging us down, the idea of stopping drinking can be so daunting and scary)that we can stay in the drinking cycle for months or years longer than we need to.  If you’re waiting for your life to get better so that you’ll be able to stop drinking, you might not realize that your life WILL get better WHEN you stop drinking.  Beyond FOMO and using alcohol as a way to connect and relieve stress, a lot of us are not ready to stop drinking yet bec ..read more

If you love drinking like I did, I know it’s almost impossible to imagine that you could be happier sober.  Before I stopped drinking I imagined that my life without alcohol would be lonely, boring and depressing.  I thought that I would always want to drink, feel constantly deprived, that date nights with my husband would be less fun, parenting my kids would be more stressful and dinners out with colleagues would be awkward.  I’m glad to tell you that I was dead wrong.  I am happier sober than I ever was in my drinking days. So if you’re scared of an alcohol-free life ..read more

Raising a child with ADHD, Autism or neurodivergence can be mentally, emotionally and physically exhausting and alcohol can seem like an easy way to relax and turn off your brain at the end of the day.  Neurodiversity encompasses a variety of conditions such as autism, ADHD, anxiety disorders, dyslexia, and more. Each condition presents its own unique set of challenges and strengths, impacting the experiences of both the kids and their parents.  Dr. Emily King notes, “Most neurodivergent kids have really big feelings and sensitive nervous systems. They may be ..read more

If you’re just starting out on the alcohol-free path it’s possible you are holding on to a negative image of what “sober life” looks like.  Before I stopped drinking I thought sobriety would be boring, sad and lonely and those beliefs kept me stuck in the drinking cycle for a long time.  I want to help you to replace those limiting beliefs and embrace sobriety as a power move. Sobriety can be the tool you use to live your best life as the most vibrant, capable and confident version of yourself.  Brené Brown wrote in a piece titled, What Being Sober Has Meant to Me, that "sob ..read more

Have you ever felt like you’re drinking for “medicinal purposes” to get through your monthly menstrual cycle and perimenopause symptoms?  I’m 48 and the first time I had a hot flash I texted my girlfriends to ask “Oh my god, is this what a hot flash feels like? It sucks!” Perimenopause is sometimes described as a "reverse puberty" which is about as fun as it sounds, except unlike puberty, it can last up to 10 years!  Between mood swings, cramps, hot flashes, headaches, brain fog, feeling physically uncomfortable, sad and unmotivated, hormonal changes in perimenopause can fuel your ..read more

Quitting drinking can be the lead domino to uplevel your life and explore a midlife makeover!  I can say that now, but I know when you’re first considering sobriety it doesn’t feel like an opportunity.  When I stopped drinking it was a last resort after years of trying to moderate and control my drinking.  I started my 100 day no alcohol challenge because I felt physically and emotionally awful and I knew alcohol was a big part of the problem. And despite knowing that drinking made me anxious and depressed, I thought that life in sobriety would suck and I would be bored, iso ..read more

Have you ever found yourself reaching for a drink to shake off a feeling of overwhelm, stress, insecurity or imposter syndrome?  I used to drink to feel less nervous the night before a big presentation, an interview or a performance review. I worried that I didn’t know enough, wasn’t well prepared enough or wouldn’t present confidently enough, so I thought a few glasses of wine would help me calm down and make those feelings disappear, even just for a little while. Impostor syndrome is surprisingly common among high achieving women. And it doesn’t matter if you’re a CEO, a lawyer, a tea ..read more

If you’ve reached 90 or 100 days of sobriety you might be wondering what to expect between 100 days alcohol-free and 6 months sober.  Does sobriety get easier between the 3 month and 6 month mark? What are the challenges and triggers I should watch out for that might make me dive back into the drinking cycle? What are the good parts of sobriety I have to look forward to?  As a sober coach I’ve worked privately with hundreds of women and helped them reach 6 months, one year, 2 years, 5 years alcohol-free and here is my advice on what to do to protect and enjoy your sobriety aft ..read more

Are you tired of the endless cycle of attempting to moderate your drinking or take breaks from alcohol, only to have your resolve crumble by Friday night (or 6pm) and wake up the next morning asking yourself why you can’t drink like a “normal person”? You’re not alone. I tried to moderate my drinking for years. I made ALL the rules about when I would (or wouldn’t drink) to get a handle on it. And maybe it would work for a while, but never for very long.  And I was miserable when I was doing it.  If I’m being honest, I’ve never wanted “a” drink in my life. I’ve always wanted that f ..read more