A blog post was released yesterday on Reddit by someone who says one of their TikTok handles is “iamthatmonstah.” The misspellings are the same as Monstah makes in her content, so, I believe it is indeed her. The content of the blog was interesting insight into the thoughts behind a very vocal supporter of estranged adult children (EAC), so I highly recommend every estranged parent (EP) that comes across my blog, be sure to take the time to read her post with an open mind. There were some points made in the post that I found to be excellent in reference to how to best approach no contact with ..read more

This will be the final post on Estranged Parents R’ Us. This final post will be cross posted on Peace and the Beach as this website will be defunct soon. *This is for educational purposes only. The following are my truths: Eleven months ago when I delved into the world of social media to not only find support as an estranged parent; but to also share what I had learned by digging into the bowels of estranged adult children’s social media and forums of choice, I honestly had no idea how vile and toxic the directed attacks towards me personally would become. At first it was easy, when I’d bring ..read more

Happy New Year Estranged Parents! Let me first apologize to you for the lack of content on this page for many months. I will not go into reasons for that happening, I will however tell you that I will do better going forward. I am stepping into 2024 with a planner in hand to schedule content for my TikTok channel, some of which I will upload onto the YouTube channel, and have a plan of topics for this blog. I love to write and when I recently reread a personal blog post I had written years ago, I realized how much I miss writing. Currently I don’t have a publisher so guess what, you are my pri ..read more

It’s every estranged parent’s dream to see their estranged adult child (EAC) out in public; but it is also every EAC’s nightmare that they try to avoid. My daughter-in-law was so upset over seeing my car in the parking lot of Target a couple of months ago that she sped away without stopping to pick up her order. Her reaction drove home how upset she is with me and the fact that reconciliation isn’t even near a possibility. I’ve been accused of stalking my EAC at Target but the truth of the matter is, I’ve utilized the Target curb side services ever since they came to be with COVID, as have my ..read more

It’s been close to a month since my last post and I do apologize. Besides having articles that were due for my publisher, life got in the way of me being able to digest what was happening on the estrangement part of my world enough to write about it. I hope today’s post makes up for my absence. For the last couple of years I have done deep dives into the online world of adult child estrangement. Being estranged by my oldest son blindsided me. The devastation and frustration were all I could think about. The fact that my behavior was so affected in all aspects of my life due to my brain injury ..read more

It’s here! When I launched Estranged Parents R’Us on TikTok, I had no idea how toxic the environment would be. Between the “no contact” adult kids and the therapists on TikTok feeling threatened by my truth telling, it was virtually impossible to share estranged parent directed content without numerous bullies be it estranged adult children or even content creators themselves. In just weeks, they falsely reported my channel and it was taken offline. Well, their behavior is what prompted me to create a private safe space for Estranged Parents to connect, share stories, support each other and re ..read more

Yesterday I had the pleasure of sitting beside a Pre-K teacher while I was getting a pedicure. When she sat down she mentioned first that she was enjoying being on vacation and then mentioned how tired she was after having her 2 year old granddaughter. My heart silently broke as I listened to her tell her nail tech how busy her granddaughter was. All I could think of was my own 2 year old granddaughter who I haven’t seen since her first birthday. Estrangement is so difficult, even when doing self care like a pedicure. It took a while before I spoke up and commented when she told her nail tech ..read more

As I start this journey of sharing all that have learned in my unfortunate journey as an estranged parent, let me be the first to shout from the rooftops that this journey has first and foremost educated me about my shortcomings as a parent, especially as a parent of adults. I haven’t had a parent since I was 4 years old and my foster parent was of “the greatest generation” which meant no nonsense, corporal punishment, therapy wasn’t a thing, and guilt tripping was a topping for dessert each and every day (twice on Sundays). Having no role models, especially no male role models, made parenting ..read more

It took less than 2 months for me to get banned on TikTok. Why was I banned do you ask? TikTok stated that I was a “user under 13 years old”, which is on the list of options that an account can be banned quickly for. If anyone listens to my voice, my TikToks, or even watched a few that I did with my face under one of the green screen filters, it was obvious I was not under 13. What happened was a creator who was not liking that I was calling her out for the hate she was stirring among her following of mostly millennial and genz-ers , and her following, didn’t like that I was sharing truths and ..read more

I was doing a scroll this weekend through Reddit’s JNMIL (Support for those with nasty, cruel, toxic, abusive MILs & moms) page when I happened upon a post by a soon to be grandmother who does not want to be labeled as a JNMIL, so the post was titled “To Be or Not to Be a JNMIL” asking the Redditers opinions on her plans when meeting her soon to be grandchild as she wanted to make sure her behavior around her son and daughter-in-law would not be featured in that sub. (The soon to be grandmother’s post has since been removed because it break’s the sub’s rules-never post in these subs as a p ..read more