Advice Column #11: What can I do when loved ones push me to reconcile?
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by J. Hila Peterson
1w ago
This month, the advice columnist answers a question about how to handle loved ones who push you to reconcile with estranged relatives. Q: My father is emotionally, financially, and physically abusive. I am currently low-contact, but other than my relationship with my mother, the rest of our family just ignores the issues. My mom takes any chance she can to push me to reconcile with him, even going so far as to say losing him means losing my whole family. I know what I'm doing is the best thing for me, but how do I continue being close to my mom when she won't listen when I ask her to stop pu ..read more
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Healing Using Cognitive Processing Therapy
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by Em
2w ago
What is Cognitive Processing Therapy, or CPT, and how can it help with processing estrangement? Cognitive Processing Therapy is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy that helps you learn how to recognize, modify, and challenge unhelpful beliefs. It is effective in reducing symptoms of PTSD that have developed after experiencing traumatic events including child abuse, combat, rape, and natural disasters.  Using CPT to treat PTSD starts with learning to identify “automatic thoughts” that may be maintaining your PTSD symptoms. These can keep you locked into the same patterns of beliefs tha ..read more
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Advice Column #10: Making the "Right Choice" When It Comes to Estrangement
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by J. Hila Peterson
2M ago
This month, the advice columnist answers a question about maintaining connections to cherished relatives after estrangement. Q: ,My mother has always been comfortable to tell me her views on how I'm disrespectful, overweight, stupid and irresponsible I am. I know I should cut her out, but know it will also mean no connection to my grandmother and nephew. Struggling with working out which is the right choice. Help :( A: Hi there, anonymous friend, Thanks for writing in., You’ve already done a great job of laying out your situation as it exists right now, identifying the factors that are import ..read more
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It's the New Year: Reflections on the Estrangement Journey
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by Em
3M ago
It's the new year. A time for reflection and new goals. Although really it’s just another day and time is a construct.  But alas, it is now 2024, and I can’t help but reflect on where I was a year ago, where I am now, and where I might be in a year.  A year ago, days for it became 2023, I remember crying because of the anxiety I had about 2023 being as hard as 2022 had been. 2022 was my first year of estrangement (I cut my family out at the end of 2021) and it was harder than I could have imagined. I faced challenges I never expected, experienced intense grief, and had to relearn wh ..read more
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Advice Column #9: January Edition on Receiving Unexpected Cards or Gifts from Estranged Family Members
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by J. Hila Peterson
4M ago
This month, the advice columnist answers a question about unexpected gifts from estranged relatives. Q: We never had a great relationship with my in-laws, I would say civil. Late last year my mother in law decided she didn’t speak to us anymore, she didn’t tell us she got married, her new husband was ill and later passed away and that my husband’s sister is very ill in cancer. We found this all out from other family members. There was no change to how we acted she stopped contact with us out of the blue. But she still sends us birthdays and Christmas cards with money in. I am unsure on how to ..read more
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Advice Column #8: December Edition on Creating a Chosen Family
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by J. Hila Peterson
5M ago
This month, our advice columnist answers a question about how to find lasting support and connection after estrangement. Q: How do you go about creating a chosen family? I hear this term often in the estrangement community. I am clear on what I don’t want in a family, but I have no idea how to find the support I am longing for. A: Hello, anonymous friend! Thanks very much for writing in. You're absolutely right that the term "chosen family" comes up a lot in the estrangement community ... but we don't always do a great job at explaining what that is (or can be), and how we find one. Part of t ..read more
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It's Giving Tuesday and Here is How Your Donation Could Help Those Estranged from Family
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by Together Estranged
5M ago
See the many ways that Together Estranged supports the #estranged community and how your dollar could take our services to the next level. To donate, click here. As Giving Tuesday approaches, we've set a goal to raise $10,000. Consider the profound impact your donation can have on the lives of those estranged from family. By supporting Together Estranged, you contribute to a network dedicated to fostering healing, understanding, and resilience. Here's how your generous donation can make a tangible difference: Expanding Support Groups: Your dollar extends the reach of Together Estranged's sup ..read more
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Together Estranged Announces the Togetherness Series: A Month-Long Event Focused on Community
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by Together Estranged
5M ago
For the estranged community, the holidays can be full of despair. Together Estranged, a nonprofit based out of Boston, MA, is working to change that with the Togetherness Series. Boston, MA - Together Estranged, a leading non-profit organization dedicated to supporting individuals experiencing estrangement, is thrilled to unveil The Togetherness Series, a comprehensive and interactive program designed to provide connection, information, and support during the challenging holiday season. This series of events will run from November 24th to December 23rd, 2023. The Togetherness Series features ..read more
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Creating New Traditions for the Holidays After Estrangement
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by Em
5M ago
Entering this time of year can bring up a lot for those estranged from their families. Thanksgiving is this month, and if you’re anything like me, it starts to feel like a countdown to all the big holidays and the uncertainty and loneliness that comes with it. Holidays have always felt hard for me and I always dreaded them and the exhaustion that came with them. In my past, it was for reasons of feeling like I had to force happiness, spend time with family when they always made me feel bad, and a decline in my mental health. It felt like a marathon of how much familial abuse I could take and h ..read more
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Advice Column #7: November Edition on the Domino Effects of Estrangement
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by J. Hila Peterson
6M ago
This month, our advice columnist answered a question about a situation where becoming estranged from one relative might mean losing contact with another beloved relative too. Q: My mother has been an alcoholic for the past 17 years, in and out of hospital. My father loves us dearly but always chooses her because she has no family herself and had a hard upbringing. She is a nasty drunk and has no want to change her ways even when it’s literally meant life or death. I don’t want her in my life or my 3 kids life but love my dad and keep her in my life because of him. He won’t see us without her ..read more
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