One of the key teachings of Tantra that can help to rekindle the spark in your relationship is that of polarity. According to Tantra, the whole Universe is created as a result of interaction between two polar opposites, Shiva and Shakti. Several of the important early Tantra scriptures are written as a dialogue between Shiva and Shakti. Shiva is the polarity of Divine Masculine, and Shakti is the polarity of Divine Feminine. In order for creation to take place the masculine and feminine need to join together in love, thus giving birth to the Universe. This principle is everywhere throughout t ..read more

The principles of Tantra can be very nicely applied to many aspects of love. And for the different phases of romantic love. The way we approach love and dating is radically changed when we understand that Tantra is a perspective of seeing everything and everyone as expressions of the Divine. Everything thing we experience as a human can serve to expand our consciousness and our capacity for love. As Tantra scholar and practitioner, Christopher Wallis has once said… “Tantra teaches that though the Divine is more than meets the eye, it is also everything the eye can meet (or the ear can hear, o ..read more

Why is dating so hard? Have you sometimes had the feeling that dating is so hard? Well you’re not alone. Most people who are, or have been, dating think that it sucks. A survey of almost 5000 US adults carried out in 2019 by the Pew Research Center found that 67% of people reported that their dating life was awful, with 75% saying that dating was really difficult. Of course dating is complicated, because humans in general are complicated. But what often happens is that we make life more complicated for ourselves. As the Chinese philosopher allegedly said… “Life is really simple, but we insist ..read more

After 11 years of spiritual reatreat I left the monastery and went out into the world in search of romantic love. During those years of monastic life I had no contact with media or the influence of society. Consequently I had an open mind and heart in my approach to finding a lover. But that would soon change. Initially I was rather inexperienced when it came to looking for a partner. On one hand I knew myself very deeply spiritually, but on the other hand I didn’t really know myself well in the context of love and dating. I needed time and experiences to grow and mature that side of myself ..read more

This summer I have been going deep into my own work with my Shadow self. This has been part of a new and exciting project that I’m working on. My partner and I are creating an amazing coaching program for single women who want to manifest soul level love. Part of it is about embracing your Shadow in order to live more in your authentic powerful self. So as we’ve been putting together the content for the program I’ve also been doing my own shadow work… and it is really powerful. It has made me realise a deeper level of understanding of Tantra. It has helped me to really see and experience the ..read more

In a recent podcast episode I talked about how Law of Attraction shows up in Tantra and we looked at some of the references found in the Tantraloka text. You can listen to that episode here. Today I want to continue exploring this theme, and specifically to identify what are the core elements of a Tantric Law of Attraction Practice. 1. INTENTION Setting your intention is the initial step, and involves clarifying your goals and getting clear about what you want to manifest. The basic premise of Law of Attraction is that you attract more of what you focus on. Your intention needs to be clear bu ..read more

The Story of Tantra So Far… (continued from Part 1 ) So we are starting to get this picture now of Tantra possibly developing from very early, almost prehistoric, primitive, shamanic, pre-Vedic traditions, that seem to have been prevalent in ancient India, and then gradually becoming a popular alternative to the mainstream Vedic traditions of that period. The orthodox teachings of the Vedas from that era, demanded self-mortification and renunciation. On the other hand, the more fringe and transgressive proto-tantric traditions, provided more accessible methods of devotion and spiritual practic ..read more

My intention with this overview is to paint a general picture of Tantra and its meaning, without getting bogged down in too much detail. It is aimed mostly at beginners who want a decent introduction to Tantra, although I think even experienced Tantrikas will still find this article interesting. I have tried to find a balance between a scholarly approach, using academic sources and historical evidence, whilst also trying to keep it fairly light and easy to digest. What is the meaning of Tantra? So we’ll start off by considering Tantra meaning, and the question “What is Tantra?” Of course, It ..read more

Why is it that, when dating and looking for love, we all too often choose a partner who turns out to be not good for our well-being? Maybe this has happened to you… or someone you know. You get attracted to a seemingly wonderful person, but sooner or later you realise that the relationship is quickly becoming toxic in some way… even harmful to your well-being. And the really frustrating thing is that it is frequently a repeating pattern… that you often seem to suffer the same kind of abuse or toxic behaviour. Even when we think we are becoming more conscious or more spiritual, and we create i ..read more

My Guru almost never used the the term Tantra. Only in rare moments, when he was with one or two of his senior swamis. Or when he was making fun of those kinds of scholars who are so much wrapped up in intellectual analysis that they struggle to experience a personal relationship with God. “You don’t need complicated mantras, yantras, and tantras to talk to God”, he would frequently tell us. “You don’t need to try and be like the yogis, rogis, and bogees,” refering to those pandits and scholars who claim that you can only know God if you recite the mantras in exactly the correct way with the ..read more