You’ve just found out you are pregnant but this wasn’t planned.  Now what?  If you are not ready or unable to parent a child, then you might be considering placing your baby for adoption. But how does that work?  If you have searched the internet for answers to your questions, you have probably found a variety of conflicting answers.  Adoption Options has been helping young women facing an unplanned pregnancy for over 25 years and we are here to answer your questions and help you as well.  You are not alone and we are here to guide and support you throughout each step ..read more

To all of you who have found yourselves here on the website of “Adoption Options.” We know you are obviously scared about the Supreme Court’s reversal of Roe vs. Wade. Every single one of you has your own story, though each of your circumstances will be different. Whether you are faced with an unplanned pregnancy or you love someone who is, we hope to provide some support for each and every one of you. To every young girl, woman, mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandparent, friend, boyfriend, or girlfriend, we want you to know that this is a safe place for each of you to share yo ..read more

There is no doubt that each young woman, when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, may be experiencing many challenges.  Some women do not have jobs, some may not be financially able to parent, some are still in school and still want to be a teenager, some are in a violent relationship, and some may be victims of incest or rape. However, the reality that few explain is that abortion is final and forever.  The “what ifs” keep creeping up, often when you least expect it. So as you face this unplanned pregnancy, I want you to know that not only is there another choice, but it is a choice ..read more

Mother’s Day has been something I’ve secretly loathed since placing my daughter for adoption. It can feel like a constant yearly reminder that I don’t have a daughter anymore and can be incredibly painful, not only the day itself, but the weeks leading up to mother’s day. Stepping foot into a grocery store can be triggering, seeing the displays of bouquets- especially arranged for mothers, or the keepsakes all throughout department stores, hand selected by distributors for children to gift that special woman in their life that’s raised and cared for them from infancy. I see these things all ar ..read more

While pregnant, and when I made the choice to place my daughter for adoption, I chose placement so that I might have the opportunity to build a fresh start, one where I could prepare myself for when I would be ready for a family. I never considered the weight that placement would bare on me-  the ever creeping thoughts, that I had taken the joy of other people who might want to be apart of her life. Sometimes I feel that I only considered myself and my daughter when I chose to place her. For a while now, I’ve struggled with the idea that my choice of adoption devastated my family. Not onl ..read more

There are moments in our lives when we do not think anyone will understand what we are going through. We are suddenly experiencing symptoms like a missed period, nausea, craving certain foods and feeling extra tired. You first think you are coming down with a “bug,” but then the symptoms do not go away. You are terrified that you just might be pregnant. Your mind races and you worry. Do you tell anyone? Should you keep it to yourself? What about your parents? Your boyfriend? You think you are completely alone and that no one will help you. It feels like your world is falling apart. How can you ..read more

My pregnancy was not orthodox by any means. I never had a round belly like most pregnant women. Because of my stature, I never appeared pregnant visibly to most people. In many ways, this proved to be a blessing to me and my own mental sanity. Since I was so over consumed with other people’s perspectives of me being pregnant outside of wedlock, it benefitted me that I could hide my pregnancy in this way. I didn’t have to share my news with anyone that I didn’t want to, because they really wouldn’t have a clue. I understand that many of my readers may not be able to relate to this specific fact ..read more

The day that adoption came into my mind as an option for my daughter’s future, I recall googling, “Adoption agencies near me”. So many links to different agencies popped up, I was overwhelmed by the number of options available. A quick glance at several pages of search results showed me that there were many different types of adoption agencies. The words: “Open”, “Private”, “Confidential”, “Closed”, and “Un-planned Pregnancy” appeared in bold letters. Some agencies were large organizations that were run across the United States, and others were local agencies, advocating for pro-life and adopt ..read more

Writing after placement has given me a lot of closure. I didn’t begin writing immediately after my daughter’s adoption took place; I would journal from time to time, but never consistently. For months after resigning my rights to be her mother, I couldn’t write much, because each time I’d put my pen to paper and begin to let things out, my eyes would fill with floods of tears. Re-living and trying to understand those moments and my decisions which led to placement felt impossible. It was simply too hard in the beginning. &nb ..read more