Read the prologue to God, the Devil, and Divorce: ​A Transformative Journey out of Emotional and Physical Abuse Do you wonder what's off in your marriage like I did? It took me years and several counselors before I received help figuring it out. Read the free prologue here to recognize one of the tactics that can undermine a marriage. God, the Devil, and Divorce ​Prologue The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something your mind knows is a lie. –Shannon L. Alder Approaching the church located in a small business park, I wonder how t ..read more

  After hiring this couple, I began receiving text messages  My husband and I gave a recently wed couple a “try-out” to do some work for us. We had seen them individually in the community but knew little about them. They proved to be knowledgeable and hard workers, so we hired them. Soon after, I began receiving text messages from her. (I have edited these so as not to reveal their identities.) Sorry I didn’t let you know we’d be late. He took my phone away! We will be there soon. I told him to wash his hair. He wanted to divorce me this morning, what an awful patient ..read more

​“The Bible says, the man is the head of family. I am not the woman in the family.” World-famous Christian leader Franklin Graham made headlines recently ... not for rescuing souls ... but for pressuring a woman to reconcile with her abusive husband. (Read the article here)  Graham pressured the wife to be quiet about the abuse and to return to her husband and his continual abuse. In the article, Abedini, the pastor husband who had been judged as “a habitual perpetrator of domestic violence,” made his beliefs very clear: “The Bible says, the man is the head of family ..read more

​My husband couldn’t seem to get what I wanted and needed from him. My husband couldn’t seem to get what I wanted and needed from him. I share this now, not because I’m holding a grudge (that has long past), but to illustrate the manifestation of passive aggressive behavior. If you are confused, hurt, and maybe angry in your marriage as I was, but can’t explain why, my experience may open your eyes to the underlying problem.      At the beginning of our marriage my husband had anticipated my basic wants and needs, and I believed I was being reasonable in thinking he ..read more