How does rebuilding trust in relationships happen? Especially after an affair? Particularly after you discover the betrayal, endure the initial confusion, and decide to stay together? Where do you even start? How do you know what steps to take next? First, please know that the trust issues you are experiencing are completely normal. Restoring your connection is a huge challenge. Yet, you don’t have to remain stuck in that broken, hurting place. There are ways to recover and rebuild. In fact, there are proven, practical strategies for rebuilding trust in relationships.  To guide you a ..read more

If you and your partner are on the difficult road to healing after infidelity, learning to trust each other and the strength of your connection is likely uppermost in your mind. Are you confused and anxious about how you will rebuild trust and feel anything akin to the love you once knew? As a couples therapist focused on affair recovery in Miami, FL, I get it. My extensive experience with couples in your position has taught me that trust is a cornerstone of any relationship that cannot be rushed or forced. Regaining it is a process that requires awareness, understanding, and a definitive plan ..read more

The pain of discovery or disclosure. The broken life that comes with broken trust. The exhaustion and dread of seeking the truth. And the anxiety of not knowing the lover you thought you knew. All of that is emotional trauma, and there is no shame in saying so.   Yet, throughout the experience, the temptation to bury those emotions and reactions can be very real. The hurt, humiliation, and anxiety, can feel like too much to deal with. Especially if you’ve decided to save your marriage, especially if you face each other daily. The temptation to put your emotions aside and get on with ..read more

Effective apologies are crucial in any relationship, especially after an affair. However, saying “I’m sorry” may not be enough to repair the damage caused by infidelity. As an unfaithful partner, it can be frustrating to apologize. To feel like your efforts are going unnoticed.  Meanwhile, your partner may struggle to accept your apologies. Or move forward from the betrayal. In this article, we will explore the importance of remorse expression in infidelity recovery. As well as provide guidance on how to apologize effectively. While drawing on insights from “How Can I Forgive You?” by Dr ..read more

Have you wondered whether conventional couples therapy can help you heal from infidelity? Is it effective for affair recovery? Do you want helpful options in the aftermath of infidelity? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there to truly educate struggling couples. Though it seems that conventional or traditional couples therapy is the only way to go, there are more options to explore. Let’s discuss your affair recovery choices here.  To start, we’ll discuss conventional couples therapy and answer questions like “Is couples therapy useful in the aftermath of ..read more

Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote I Don’t Want to Talk About It, the quintessential book on male depression. He is also the marriage counselor Ester Perel turns to and Bruce Springsteen and Bradley Cooper are among his clients and fans. In his newest book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate connections. With all of this in mind, I invited Terry Real for a conversation. It was such an ..read more

Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. These thoughts, or similar worries, are concerns that both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many questions and concerns come up for couples: Will we ever go back to normal? Does the old normal even make sense anymore? Am I always going to have to be alert, even when things feel more n ..read more

Can an affair recovery program save our relationship? As you know, I’m wholly dedicated to helping committed couples save their marriages with recovery in mind. Half of my practice is traditional couples therapy. The other half is focused on couples seeking guidance and support in the aftermath of infidelity. My program, It’s Okay to Stay, is my approach to the latter.  It isn’t a vehicle for unhelpful venting. Instead, I developed a recovery journey, by which committed couples can move forward and heal.  That said, I recently met with Dr. Marie Murphy on her podcast, Your Secret is ..read more

Infidelity can be a devastating blow to any relationship. It can shatter trust, and create feelings of betrayal and abandonment. It can leave partners struggling to find a way to move forward. Infidelity is possible to overcome relationship trauma. To rebuild your connection with your partner with the help of marriage counseling. In this blog, we will explore how marriage counseling in Florida can help couples heal from infidelity. To move forward toward a stronger, healthier relationship. We will discuss the role of a communication therapist in helping to rebuild trust and intimacy. Along wit ..read more

You don’t want to miss this article. In fact, I can’t believe we haven’t talked about this  before. Why? Because this topic is too important to skip. What I’m about to share with you has a way of hiding in the shadows of too many relationships… First, you probably know that infidelity happens for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it has to do with the relationship, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s a combination of both. What you might not know is that, in the majority of cases, there is a “silent killer” lurking between partners for months, even years before infidelity ever happens.&nb ..read more