What does it mean to truly trust ourselves? It's a big question isn't it? And one that I feel deserves more attention than it gets.   Our level of self trust has an enormous impact on how we feel on the daily. Mind, body and spirit. It influences how fully we show up in every area of our lives. When we're not trusting ourselves (and we all experience that from time to time) it's hard to feel safe in the world. This of course blocks our ability to express our true essence, tap into our unique creative spark and give our gifts with joy. Chronic self doubt can feel like we're always walkin ..read more

Is it time to level up? It must be in the air. Or maybe it’s the current astrology. (Eclipse season anyone?) It seems everyone I speak to these days,( including myself btw), is down for a level-up of some kind. Whether it’s moving across the globe, a break up (lovers, friends, biz partners etc), a career change, a re-brand, a home makeover, a style makeover, a detox a fitness or nutritional challenge, changes are happening! And that’s a beautiful thing. Life never lets us stay stagnant for very long. It’s become clear that the old way isn’t working anymore.  For many of us.  Our ..read more

“Bring me a higher love.”  If there’s a mantra for this eclipse season (and for these times in general), I think it’s gotta be that. On the collective level we’re yearning for a deeper (and higher) experience in all things romance and eros.  And that yearning is gathering momentum. Can you feel it? Love is in the air and it’s in the sea. It’s trembling in the earth, and burning passionately within the chambers of our own wild hearts. This may be the medicine we've been missing. We are waking up. We are remembering. It’s so funny/not funny that as a culture we’re totally obsessed ..read more

Our bodies store our traumatic experiences ( big T and little t ) until we process them, integrate them and release them. In the words of trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk, MD: "The Body Keeps the Score." When we have stored trauma in our bodies it can show up in many different ways. Here are just a few: emotional and physical blocks/numbness pelvic pain/painful sex pelvic floor issues blocks to intimacy and connection confusion about our desires lack of body confidence  feeling cut off from our creativity, intuition and inspiration limits to feeling sexual and sensual pleasure Whil ..read more

Do you feel cut off from your pleasure? I get it! Most women do. And it makes sense. Why do so many women feel numb and cut off from their sensual pleasure? So many reasons... The broad stroke is that we live in a pleasure-negative world that pretty much demands a disconnect from our sensuality and the creative life force power of our sexual energy. It hasn't felt safe for most of us to inhabit our sensual selves. If that’s been your experience I want you to know that it’s not your fault. And I also want you  to know that you have the power to change that. And you can start in the sim ..read more

Grief is a part of the human experience. No doubt about that. Grief is something that (in general) modern society is really bad at. But I think we’re getting better. New awareness and ways of supporting people in the grief process is growing rapidly and that’s very encouraging. Being supported, heard and witnessed by caring humans while in a deep grief process is so important. In addition to skilled counseling, kindness and compassion from others (and giving ourselves spaciousness and time), we can also offer ourselves somatic or body-based support. I feel that having tools to process grie ..read more

Some people call it “Woo.”  I call it my feminine.  Reclaiming the mystical part of me has been (and continues to be) a deep process. Giving myself permission to let this part of me out has been a healing journey; a spiral path for sure. Like many, I was taught very young that this non-logical, magical, daydreamy, intuitive part of me was wrong. Dangerous even. And like we always do with any part of us that has been deemed “unacceptable” I learned to hide it, ignore it and essentially  stuff it. But in doing so I was cutting myself off from a core part of who I am and the uni ..read more

Most women I know, myself included, find romantic relationships to be one of the most challenging areas of life. It’s an ongoing adventure isn’t? Sometimes there’s connection, ease, flow, passion and fun. And then the winds shift (sometimes very quickly) and we find ourselves moving into frustration, resentment, anger and that awful gnawing feeling of not feeling met, seen or fulfilled.  Even worse, we sometimes blame ourselves for not knowing what went wrong, not “doing it right” and not knowing how to fix it. Ugh! We’ve all been there! And it doesn’t serve us or our lovers. In part ..read more

The feminine is a force of nature.  Society doesn’t make it easy to embody and express that. And yet it’s absolutely key. My own journey of reclaiming my feminine didn’t begin with sunshine, rainbows, love and light. It began in the dark. It began when I decided to step on the path of befriending my wild, unpredictable, untamable, stormy Dark Femme and invite her to the party. I used to be terrified of this part of me, but what I’ve found to be true is that She’s my die or ride, my bff, my inner boundary boss and keeper of my deepest desires. Connecting with this part of me literally ..read more

If you struggle with your intimate relationships with the masculine,  you’re so not alone!  Intimacy dynamics and romance are a major pain points for so many powerful women. We can be super confident and fulfilled in so many areas of our lives; career, family, friends, but when it comes to our romantic life?  Things can go into a confusing, destabilizing  and downright infuriating downward spiral fast.  I get it. And I’ve definitely been there. Although we may crave a deeply loving, connected, passionate relationship with a man, how one can actually create that can ..read more