6 minute read Why do people fake orgasms? Well, there are lots of reasons. And it’s also really common, as research shows that 28% of people in the United States struggle to orgasm. So, if you’re confused and wondering why someone would ever fake an orgasm (or why you’re faking your own orgasms), know there are a lot of possible answers. And as a sex therapist and coach, I’m going to help you make sense of them all.  Because faking orgasm isn’t mean or manipulative – it’s a response to sexual norms.  Why do people fake orgasms? Whether faking has to do with yourself or your partner ..read more

5 min read “Why am I never horny?” Probably one of the most common questions people ask me. As a sex therapist and coach specialised in low sex drive, it’s important to know one thing: the answer is usually not a straight one.  There are lots of reasons why we lose our desire for sex. And most of them are, in fact, completely normal – meaning, they’re common, and there is nothing wrong with you. Here are 5 totally normal reasons why you’re not horny anymore. Table of contents 1. Your Partner Wants Sex More Than You 2. You’re Asexual 3. You Don’t Prioritize Sex 4. You Experience Anxiety a ..read more

9 min read Problems in the bedroom aren’t necessarily a sign of a relationship on the rocks, but rather, a belief in faulty sex myths. No matter where in the world we grow up, most of us are subjected to harmful myths about sex from a young age. Be it through the media, Hollywood films or pornography, these sexual myths etch their way into our brains. So much so, that when sex doesn’t go smoothly, we often believe something is wrong with us or our partner – when that very likely isn’t the case.  As a sex therapist and intimacy coach, I help people with all kinds of sexual and relationship ..read more

9 minute read Fighting about sex is common but can leave you feeling like things will never change. The important thing to remember is that they can. But to get there – you need to understand what’s really going on. Because arguments about sex often seem deceivingly simple – when they’re not.   Reasons why we fight about sex When you and your partner find yourself arguing about sex for the 58th time – it’s important to consider what the fights are actually about. This is only how the conflict will get a true chance at being resolved. Because what might seem like a very clear-cut issue, li ..read more

8 minute read When you’re stuck in a dry spell in a relationship it can feel hopeless. But dry spells aren’t permanent states – they can be broken, unearthing better sex and more intimacy than ever before. You just need to know what’s going on and how to do it.  What is a dry spell in a relationship? A dry spell in a relationship usually refers to a lack of sex or a reduction of sex between partners. Despite what the phrase alludes to, it’s not about a specific amount of time passing between sexual encounters. Rather, a dry spell is usually about what your sex life has looked like in the ..read more

12 minute read What is the fear of letting go sexually really all about? Well, sexual anxiety is oftentimes rooted in deep-seated worries and fears of getting things wrong. For some, it’s about a fear of not being good enough in bed. For others, it’s about not looking the way you feel your body should.  At its core, it’s about a fear of not being accepted by your partner – and sometimes even yourself.   Because whether you have lots of casual sex or only sleep with your spouse – sex can be a vulnerable experience at heart.  Not only are you getting naked in front of someone ..read more

12 min read As a sex therapist, I often get the question: what exactly is a sex therapist anyway? Like, really? Well, sex therapists are sex specialists. This means that a sex therapist can help you with any kind of concern or problem relating to sex and human sexuality. Some people want help increasing their sex drive, whereas others want sex to stop pain during sex, or receive advice on how to turn their monogamous relationship into an open one. What does a sex therapist do? A sex therapist usually offers sex therapy as well as counselling, depending on their level of education and what is n ..read more

23 minute read Low sex drive? You’re not alone. In fact, you’re 1 in 3 who experience low sex drive. In this ultimate guide, you’ll learn about lots of causes of low libido in women – 17 to be exact – all with corresponding solutions on increasing libido in women. Because it truly is possible to get your sex drive back – even if you haven’t wanted sex for months (or years!). The Secret To Getting Your Sex Drive Back As a clinical sexologist, I see women daily who don’t want sex anymore and don’t understand why. They feel stressed, anxious and often start questioning their relationship or marri ..read more

9 minute read Fear surrounding sex can be debilitating and might just have you wondering whether you have Erotophobia. When just the thought of having sex with your partner sets off alarm bells within your body – it can feel like things will never change and like there’s something seriously wrong. For some, there’s a generalized anxiety about sex that’s developed over time. Perhaps you and your partner have mismatched libidos and you’ve struggled to get on the same page about sex. As time passes, the low libido partner might start to avoid sex entirely, because they feel pressured to want sex ..read more

12 minute read Spontaneous sex and impulsive sex are the kinds of sex most of us dream of having. But the thing is – spontaneity can be really hard to achieve, especially in a long term relationship. And it’s even more challenging if you’re in a sexless relationship – cause how likely is it to go from no sex to sex at the spur of the moment?  The opportunity for spontaneous sex arises when the mood strikes you. A lot of times, this is about messy, imperfect moments where there’s less focus on everything being “just right” and more emphasis on what is.  How sex can become more difficu ..read more