Exploring Intimacy: Understanding the Emotional Depth of Oral Sex Compared to Intercourse   I have had the privilege of being immersed in a community of wonderful women who are open to exploring their sexuality and psychology from all points and perspectives. Their openness is remarkable. It is from this community that a very poignant question was raised to which there wasn’t a communal answer.   From our discussions, it got me thinking. Why do we often find oral sex more intimate than regular sex?   I've touched on this topic before, and I want to shed some light on why this mi ..read more

What to do if you’re not having sex in your relationship?   Couples who don't have sex may feel like something is wrong with their relationship, but it is not uncommon for couples to experience a lack of sexual intimacy. Whether it's due to stress, busy schedules, or other factors, there are ways to address the issue and reignite the spark in your relationship. Here are some top tips for couples who don't have sex:     1.              Communicate openly and honestly. One of the most important things you can do is t ..read more

Overcoming Sexual Shame: A Guide for Men   According to the American Psychological Association (APA, 2020) Shame is identified as a highly unpleasant self-conscious emotion arising from the sense of there being something dishonourable, immodest, or indecorous in one’s own conduct or circumstances. While Guilt is a self-conscious emotion characterised by a painful appraisal of having done (or thought) something that is wrong and often by a readiness to take action designed to undo or mitigate this wrong. It is distinct from shame, in which there is the additional strong fear of one’s deeds ..read more

Fluffy Pyjamas and the Art of Eroticising Your Partner I love hosting a men's group. In many ways I wish I had started this process years ago, not only because it is such a healing space for the men involved, but for me too. I've come to truly understand the importance of being in a masculine space with men who are evolving, holding each-other accountable and trying to be as authentic as we can be regardless of how painful the disclosure can be.   My speciality being relationships, sexuality and couples always raises some interesting questions and reflections. One of which was the topic ..read more

Do Sexual Attachment Styles Actually Exist?   In current psychological literature, there are no explicit theories around sexual attachment styles. There is enquiry into how attachment styles affect one’s sexuality but nothing to say what your sexual attachment style actually is. That being said, we’re going to approach attachment styles from a sexual standpoint and help you make sense of your attachment style from a sexual point of view because sex is so important to us! Sex is assumed to be a natural process. But for most people during their lifespan of engaging sexually, sex has come wi ..read more

The Sexual Triangle of Deprivation by Dr Massimo     Thriving in the day and age we live in has become much more possible with many tools available to us in comparison to what was available 20 years ago as an example. We have come leaps and bounds in various therapies and methodologies that can really assist us in becoming more at peace within our body and mind, in addition to how we relate outwards in the world. An additional component that is often overlooked in this need for thriving, is how we relate to our sexuality. How we position our sexuality in relation to how we do everyth ..read more

What to do if you’re not having sex in your relationship?   Couples who don't have sex may feel like something is wrong with their relationship, but it is not uncommon for couples to experience a lack of sexual intimacy. Whether it's due to stress, busy schedules, or other factors, there are ways to address the issue and reignite the spark in your relationship. Here are some top tips for couples who don't have sex:     1.              Communicate openly and honestly. One of the most important things you can do is t ..read more

How to navigate friends with benefits   People love to connect. We are social animals and have an overriding desire to be connected with others on so many levels not just intimate ones. In most of these interactions we never truly position each other with specific questions until we are already in the cycle of relating with them. This doesn’t mean that these conversations are too late, but they are different when started once in a relational cycle.   When it comes to friends with benefits, there is a general consensus that we all have the capacity to play in this space, but this coul ..read more

Fluffy Pyjamas: Turn on or Turn off I love hosting a men's group. In many ways I wish I had started this process years ago, not only because it is such a healing space for the men involved, but for me too. I've come to truly understand the importance of being in a masculine space with men who are evolving, holding each-other accountable and trying to be as authentic as we can be regardless of how painful the disclosure can be.   My speciality being relationships, sexuality and couples always raises some interesting questions and reflections. One of which was the topic of fluffy pyjamas ..read more

Searching for daddy     It seems that men are the root of it all. The convoluted nature of this statement can be taken in so many different ways and men are often portrayed as the evil doers because for one simple reason is that we have a massive impact on the world. In my opinion the world is at a total loss without women, but the more I research and enquire into men and the importance of men, we too are important and our power and impact on others cannot be overlooked, not even for one second.   I once watched a movie called "the last man on planet earth", and in a nutshe ..read more