We are energy. Our thoughts and actions create energy that comes from us. We can feel other people’s energy. Intuitively, we pick up on the energy of other people and that can make us feel uncomfortable or happy. Just like people, things have energy too. The things we own are tangible reminders of days gone by. But, sometimes, we hold onto things longer than we need to. While everyone has their own level of comfort as far as collecting things go, it can begin to become a problem if you feel that you can’t let go for no rational or sentimental reason. At no time is this problem more in-your-fa ..read more

The idea for this blog came about after many conversations and of course, personal experiences.  Attachments…we all have them. In some way or another, we are all attached. We interact with people daily on different levels and whether it was the person who cut in front of you in line or an old friend that you helped long ago who now acts like you no longer exist, we all have people who live in our heads.  Perhaps you are reliving a conversation with someone and thinking, “God, I should have shot back with a better zinger but I’m not that good at thinking on my feet”, or “Damn I hate that bitch ..read more

​The following was written by SNAP survivor Amy Nordhues. I asked Amy if I could share this as I can’t think of anything written by anyone could describe the grooming process better than this.  We are living in an age where things are changing but victim blaming is still alive and well….especially for adults. Read this article. Share this article.  Amy, you on on-point. Thank you so much for letting me share this. ======================================================== In this article, I focus on adult grooming, the grooming strategy that perpetrators implement to ensnare and ultimately abuse ..read more

It’s that time of year again where we get to review what happened last year on this blog with you readers. First we have the most popular answers to the polls. Here they are:  1. Favorite comfort food? Dessert  2.If there was a book about your life, most people said it would be called “Where did the time go?” 3.Most of you have two siblings 4.Most have had to go to court to see their grandchildren, are estranged from family members, or are prevented from seeing their grandchildren. 5.You have never tried pot gummies but would consider trying them. 6.You said that other people like the fact th ..read more

You may have heard that the body holds on to emotion and that emotional and physical trauma can make you sick. We also know that stress can come from without or within. Sometimes at one time. What ways can we protect ourselves from ongoing stress and depression when life can look bleak, and it feels like an effort just to exist some days. I know that for me, I can be my own worst enemy. See if this is familiar to you as well. Filling in the blanks in a negative way. What I mean by that, is making what others do, about yourself and worrying about what others are thinking about you. I don’t mea ..read more

“Manifestation takes place constantly. All that you think and all that is in your life is a replica and mirror of the activity of your thought and the intensity of your emotion and desire nature. Most beings live in massive confusion, one thought counteracting and negating the other. Fear is the predominant atmosphere on your planet and negates the more positive desires.” From “A Force of Light to Illuminate Your Journey”‘ by Marina Petro One thing this brings to mind for me is self-talk. I’ve heard that some people have no inner dialog. My own inner chatter is constant. But when we do form ..read more

And we are back with our final discussion about Narcissists and abuse. In this last chapter we will be summing things up and discussing what to do when it’s over…when you decide to end things, or your Narcissist discards you. Can you begin by telling everyone once again what the warning signs are before getting involved with an abusive person? Sure. I think firstly that we need to forget about the Narcissistic label for a moment. I have heard so many people defend their abuser and say they aren’t really a bad person. It doesn’t matter if they don’t check all of the boxes. What really matters ..read more

So, we are back talking about Narcissistic abuse. You were going to tell me about your support system and the feedback you and others tend to receive when they reach out for help. Go on. It’s not an easy thing to discuss. First of all, like I said, there is usually very little proof. And Narcissists tend to have developed their skills over time and are usually more than willing to put the blame on their victims. But, I have heard things like, “What did you expect?” “Why don’t you just leave that poor man alone?” “I think you were seeing things that just weren’t there” “You were just seeing wh ..read more

So let’s get back to the difference between a soulmate and an abusive person. What has been your experience in that area? Oh, my well, I don’t think I have ever had a soul mate. I mean it felt that way, but it turned out it wasn’t. I guess one thing would be the chase. I mean, you literally feel swept off of your feet by someone who is a Narcissist. It’s like in the movies and in books. I keep saying it’s the way they look at you but I swear, every Narcissist I have ever known has given me “the look”. And it melts you. But when you try to “love them back”, it is like there is nothing there. I ..read more

I feel inspired to write when things kind of come together in my head to form an entire thought. The news doesn’t always inspire me to write. It’s so depressing. The thing is, all of this is connected. Whether it is a news story about a bishop eulogizing the death of a prior Bishop with a questionable past, saying to paraphrase…we are all human, we all sin, we all try our best….to a friend or loved one saying “You’re not seeing this right, I think you’re a little bit paranoid… It all falls under basic plays in the abuser’s textbook. So, I had a thought about interacting with Narcissists. But ..read more