We've spent the last 3 days at a lifestyle resort. It's quiet here during the week, and it's given us this amazing opportunity to sit back and watch how people approach each other in these environments. It's also made us realize how successful some of the single men in attendance can be using a bit of charisma and a lot of respect! So, we thought we'd share a few tips on the best ways to approach hotwife couples at clubs or events, in the hopes that it will help everyone have a whole lot more fun! Tip #1: Approach the Hubby First This one is big for Brian. Often what has happened in the past ..read more

We received a ton of great feedback from the first round of Swinger Stereotypes, and thank you to those that reached out with suggestions for the next edition! Without further ado....Here are some of the "types" of swingers you might encounter in the swinging lifestyle. (Again please note, this is meant for entertainment purposes and is not meant to offend). The "Kinkster" Swingers These swingers are the ones that bust out their BDSM equipment the second they arrive at an event. An event that is clearly not a BDSM theme or night, either. They walk in the door, immediately strip down to their ..read more

Allow me to preface this blog by saying this: We are not anti-alcohol. We are certainly not sober ourselves, and we don't judge those that partake in alcohol in any way. We are simply providing some thoughts based on personal experience and stories shared with us by listeners of our show. As lifestyle podcasters, we receive a lot of emails, many of which are other lifestyle folks wanting to share their stories with us. Typically these stories are very heart-warming and wonderful, but every once in a while, someone will reach out with a train wreck experience. I recently started combing throug ..read more

For those familiar with our podcast, Front Porch Swingers, you know our bread and butter in the non-monogamous lifestyle is hotwifing. Brian, my amazing partner, is eager to "share" me with other men, only to come home to him and be re-claimed. This type of play has added such an intensity and level of fun to our sex life, but it's been about much more than that for me personally. Today, I'd like to share 5 important lessons I have learned about myself and the world around me thanks to my hotwife experiences! #1: You Won't Be Everyone's Cup of Tea And that's ok! I used to take it so personall ..read more

As a hotwife couple and those that speak often to other lifestylers, it is very common for us to receive questions about the swingers’ site profiles of other nonmonogamous folks. We so often harp on the bios, the photos, the first message or two, and the importance in all of these things of putting your best foot forward. After all, for most of us lifestylers, the online profiles we keep are the first glimpse others have into us as both sexual and friendly people: What do we look like? What is most important to us in play partners? How could we share vanilla time with you in a mutually-enjoya ..read more

After back to back hotwife parties last week as well as numerous events over the years, a very interesting revelation was had. Tact matters. Especially when we're talking about single men interacting with couples. Allow me to share a few examples to illustrate my point. At an event we went to several months ago, there was one single gentleman hitting it out of the park with a couple. He was devastatingly handsome, dressed in a perfectly pressed shirt and slacks, and seemed to be truly wowing the couple with his conversational skills. The wife kept leaning toward him, flashing him flirty smile ..read more

My friend and I had known each other for 5 years when I saw him on a kink site. Our friendship up to that point had been incredibly vanilla, zero flirtation of any type. He invited me to birthday parties, we would have coffee once a month and discuss our lives, but that was literally where it began and ended. I always found him attractive, but I never believed it would go beyond that. After all, we were both married when we first met at my place of work. And even after our marriages both fell apart, it didn’t feel like a romantic connection between us was ever in the cards. Fast forward to Br ..read more

As a hotwife couple and those that speak often to other lifestylers, it is very common for us to receive questions about the swingers’ site profiles of other nonmonogamous folks. We so often harp on the bios, the photos, the first message or two, and the importance in all of these things of putting your best foot forward. After all, for most of us lifestylers, the online profiles we keep are the first glimpse others have into us as both sexual and friendly people: What do we look like? What is most important to us in play partners? How could we share vanilla time with you in a mutually-enjoya ..read more

I’m asked almost daily the exact same question from those interested in hotwifing: How do we start? And while the answer is certainly not “one size fits all,” there are some important items to be considered that I would say are universal. This article will provide some ways in which a prospective hotwife and hotwife husband can dip their toe into the world of hotwifing without jumping in the deep end with no life jacket! Why do I say tiptoeing into the lifestyle? To me, hotwifing (and non-monogamy in general) is much like adding salt to a recipe. You can always add more salt, but you can’t re ..read more

An unfortunate reality of the swinging lifestyle: Not everyone is as they seem. Sometimes this misrepresentation is mild, like lying about their age by a year or two, or using photos from 5 years ago. Other times, though, it can be much more sinister. Today, we'll outline some of the most prevalent red flags to watch for when cruising the lifestyle sites, so you can focus on the fun! Red Flag #1: A Bare Naked Profile This is by far the most obvious red flag: They have no bio, no photos, and no real information of any kind. You've spent hours putting together a thoughtful bio and picking out t ..read more