Everything changes after a breakup: plans for the future, your daily schedule, and even your sleeping position. A serious breakup can even distort your sense of self and lead to losing the desire to date anyone new. But you should understand that these feelings of disappointment and loneliness will go away at some point. Only you can make a decision to move on. Indeed, it might be scary to start dating again and open up to someone else. Moreover, it is perfectly fine to have sexual insecurity after a breakup. You can live without sex and sexual desire. But your bedroom shouldn’t be a midfield ..read more

Does having a friend with benefits (FWB) appeal to you? A friend-with-benefits relationship is simply a relationship with a good friend, with whom you enjoy sex without the commitment of a conventional relationship. Simple. Or is it? The idea of no-strings-attached sex with someone you like (and fancy) is appealing to many. As humans, we crave intimacy, but may not want a committed relationship for several reasons. These include commitment phobia, fear of getting hurt and lack of time. But there is more to this setup than meets the eye. Unlike a traditional relationship where the rules are cle ..read more

I’m the kind of person who likes to research before I start a mission. For this reason, before I made my midlife foray into the dating world, I read many articles with online dating tips. I found most articles to be identical and packed with, well, common sense. Don’t get me wrong, common sense is hugely important when you date, but I’m an adult, I don’t need to be reminded to use it. I needed some golden advice to prevent me from making rookie mistakes and save me the drama of learning the hard way. Ultimately, I did learn the hard way and made lots (I mean LOTS) of mistakes. But don’t they s ..read more

Do you need to get your confidence back in bed? So you’ve found a man and you’re ready to take things to the next level. Whoo hoo, good for you. But it’s been such a long time since you last had sex, especially with someone new who you really want to impress. Perhaps you’ve put on a few pounds or are feeling old. Maybe you’re seriously wondering if it’s all still working down there. Well, I am here to tell you that you are one sexy mumma. Having sex is a bit like riding a bike, you never forget. And once the pedals are turning and you feel the cool wind in your hair, you’ll wonder why you wait ..read more

There’s nothing like sexy lingerie to help you get your confidence back in bed and feel desired. But the trick is … not to feel like a complete fool! At the mildly worrying age of 49, when it comes to choosing fancy undies, I am very aware there is a fine line between hot and smokin’ and trying to hold it all in. Don’t get me wrong. I’m fine in my own skin. I’ve housed two beautiful babies in this bod and no longer hide my stretch marks, instead, I wear them as a badge of honour. As a busy, working mum, I’ve not always had the time or energy to take care of my figure as I would have liked, and ..read more

If you are new to online dating, I’m going to say “welcome” (in a nice cheery, positive voice) as I begin this article on the best dating apps for absolute beginners. For all the terrible stories and myths around online dating apps, they do serve a purpose and I know several people who have found love, happiness, damn good sex and even marriage from them. The most important step in “getting it right” is choosing the right app for you because each app covers different parts of the many dating scenes, has various features, safety options and pricing tiers (some are free, check out Onli ..read more

There is nothing more natural than allowing yourself some independent sexual pleasure, especially if you’ve been single for a long time (or even if you’re in a relationship, *wink). But if you get caught in the act, trying to explain “Mummy’s weird toy” to a two-year-old can be embarrassing! For this reason, quiet vibrators are worth their weight in gold. Have you been scouring online adult shops for personal vibrators for women, but you still haven’t decided which one to pick? Or, you are overwhelmed by the choice available … who knew there was such a variety? Your search is over, sister. Bec ..read more

So you’re a single mum, and you’ve found a new man. Yay. Life is good. But is it? You’re not alone if you’ve hit an unexpected hurdle and find yourself, head in hands, thinking: My kids can’t stand my new man, now what? And you thought dating was the hard part! Having been a single mother for ten years, I’ve given dating a whirl a few times and have met some guys I’ve hit it off with. One, my kids hated. The next one, I avoided introducing to my kids for a whole nine months, until the relationship fizzled out. The last seems to be accepted … so far. I’m here to share my experiences and subsequ ..read more

Lack of intimacy, affection and touch can have detrimental effects on our body and mind. If you have been single for a long time you will know what I mean. Humans are designed to be close, intimate, cuddle and have sex with one another. Being touched is what most of us miss when we are in-between relationships. It is the case for me. While great sex is wonderful and often desired, it’s the cuddles and hugs I crave most. Our bodies know what is required to function properly and research suggests that affection belongs on that list closely behind food, water and rest. We humans need touch; touch ..read more

Exploring one’s sexuality is a personal and empowering journey. It’s all about discovering what feels good for you. If you’re considering using a vibrator for the first time, congratulations on taking this exciting step towards self-discovery and pleasure! Embracing sexuality can also lead to a deeper understanding of one’s body and mind, fostering self-love and body positivity. In a world that has too often imposed shame and judgment, embracing one’s sexuality is a crucial step towards gender equality and personal fulfilment. Vibrators can be a fantastic addition to your sexual repertoire, wh ..read more