Emotional healing is life-changing and as a woundologist I study wounds and help others talk and heal them.  Emotional abuse is the total destruction of a life  It is the breakdown. Like a death of self. It will take you through the different stages of  grief  You were attacked, persecuted and killed emotionally. If you are not careful when the abuser moved on to what they haven’t destroyed you might end up finishing the job for them. Demolished and distraught you then destroy yourself. They sit back with their popcorn and watch with amusement. Your life is with rubble but ..read more

The Scapegoated Child and they total destruction caused by the Narcissist After posting How do you heal after the Narcissist has totally destroyed your life? on Saturday the video was reposted by Prof. Sam Vaknin and a few days before that I edited my video The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother from YouTube and posted in on TIKTOK and within a few days when I recorded the podcast it had had 22.2K views - as I type it is now at 24k.  So for this week I wanted to combine the two and talk about the interconnectedness of the two. And also finish with a s ..read more

I posted a YouTube video on Saturday titled can the Narcissist change? for this podcast I talk about the wounds that would ask this question and how to see a word in a sentence as a #redflag    YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/TheEmotionalAbuseSanctuary Have you been asking Can the Narcissist Change?  The Rise and Thrive Tribe      ..read more

So many emotions going on at the moment I have seen a lot of people reaching out who are in pain    So I share with you some inner-standing and processing of these emotions. The role of #oxytocin and how you can create this yourself when you are craving the abuser or the relationship.  The Rise and Thrive Tribe https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/membershipprogramme ..read more

This week I talk about loneliness and about who you are, who you really are and asked the questions; is this because of the relationship that you don't know who you are, or have you ever known who you really are? Also look at various reasons for this deep loneliness.    You can book a Soul Plan Reading here: https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/soul-plan-reading    #soulplanreading #loneliness #woundtalking #honestconversations ..read more

Over the last couple of weeks I started to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took - this week I talk about the codependency, coercive control and cognitive dissonance. Next week is the birthday editionl. It had been listening to Mario Martinez recently and he was saying unless you are at the point you had comes to terms with the breakdown of the relationship you shouldn’t leave otherwise it will turn you crazy…  So I wanted to share a bit of my story about my crazy experience.    #npd #cognitivedissonance #mindfuck #mindfuckery https://www.thedivorcesanctua ..read more

Last week I started to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took - I am sharing more over the next few weeks leading up to the birthday edition on the 4th April. It had been listening to Mario Martinez recently and he was saying unless you are at the point you had comes to terms with the breakdown of the relationship you shouldn’t leave otherwise it will turn you crazy…  So I wanted to share a bit of my story about my crazy experience.  I said at the end of last week I would talk about the nightmares and trauma after the relationship was over. Today I talk about th ..read more

In this episode I want to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took and I will share more over the next few weeks leading up to the birthday edition in April. I share a bit of my story about the mindfuckery I experienced and I am still wondering if I was crazier in the relationship or out of it Knowledge is Power • The Questions • Narcissistic Abuse Knowledge is Power • Why No Closure? • Narcissistic Abuse Knowledge is Power • Why does it hurt so much? • Narcissistic Abuse Knowledge is Power • What is the narcissist doing? • what happens when the narcissist leaves? Know ..read more

In this one I talk about the rollercoaster of emotions and the importance of grieving the past, the present, and the future. Why divorcing emotionally is so important and will help you get the closure you need.  And ask if the abuse is a parasite…  Grieving the Past Present and Future  The A to Z of Emotional Abuse #divorcematters ..read more

When relationships breakdown down, healthy people are able to acknowledge what isn’t working and they are also able to split assets in a healthy non-judgemental way. This isn’t going to happen with an emotionally abusive person. And there are a few reasons for this  I want to help you inner stand what is happening on the inside and find the tools and a toddler has the answers for you! Ask yourself if you had a young child with you who was cranky or needed attention what would you to for them or with them? ⬆️ and this one question can change your life      ..read more