Understanding myself means understanding the meaning making/interpreting I do. Understanding you means understanding the meaning making/interpreting you do ..read more

Taking self-responsibility means taking full ownership of my experience- my needs that are expressed through my feelings, my judgments and my actions ..read more

Focusing on judgments and blame keeps us stuck in problems. This is not very emotionally intelligent, is it? Shifting to awareness of needs helps focus on potential solutions ..read more

You’ve taken the Emotional Intelligence course. You’ve seen that it can be helpful for personal growth and wellbeing, communication and relationships. But how do you even start or sustain your practice?As someone whose journey with Emotional Intelligence began with joining My Emotions Matter earlier this ..read more

A client I was handling called my supervisor and said I was ‘harsh’ with her. She was reacting emotionally but I wanted to use my Emotional Intelligence to respond ..read more

भावनात्मक साक्षरता, वा भावनाहरूलाई सकारात्मक रूपमा पहिचान गर्ने, बुझ्ने,नाम दिने र अभिव्यक्त गर्ने क्षमता भावनात्मक परिपक्वताको आधारभूत सीपहरू मध्ये एक हो। ..read more

धेरैजसो मनमुटावहरु दुई जना व्यक्तिहरूले एउटै घटनालाई फरक-फरक तरिकाले व्याख्या गर्ने हुनाले सुरु हुन्छ। ..read more

‘Why are you feeling so low?’ ‘It is going to be okay!’ ‘Cheer up!’ ‘Don’t be sad, don’t cry like a girl.’ These are things we say and hear in our interpersonal interactions. Sadness doesn’t readily get a place in social media posts or family dinners. People also find it challenging to share their sadness with friends or romantic partners to either not come across as complaining or ungrateful and even risk being misunderstood or shunned. Sadness is also closely associated with ‘overthinking,’ ‘cynicism,’ or ‘being depressed.’ People often navigate sadness with ‘toxic positivity’–the need to r ..read more

I’m sure we have all felt frustrated, disappointed, hopeless, or sad when things didn’t go as planned or we couldn’t meet our expectations. In such situations, developing a sense of pessimism is natural because we see no way out or become weighed down by dread. We usually begin to think that the problem or the situation we find ourselves in will remain permanent, negatively impact all or most areas of our lives, and stop seeing possibilities or the choices to overcome the problem. It is the reason why pessimism usually has a negative connotation. Just like about anything in life, pessimism al ..read more

मैले भावनात्मक बुद्धिमत्ताका धेरै सत्रहरु लिँदा, प्रायजसो: "यदि म यत्तिकै पनि ठिकै छु भने आफ्ना भावनाहरु बारे छलफल गर्दा, मैले धेरै सोचेको जस्तो हुँदैन र?" " भावनाहरु बारे सोच्दा/बोल्दा हामी सामान्य अवस्थामा भन्दा बढि कमजोर र भावुक मान्छे ठहरिने सम्भावना बढि हुँदैन र?"   ..read more