Going through a breakup can feel like riding the rollercoaster of unsettling and challenging emotions. In today's post, I'll explore the nature of this emotional roller coaster and discuss strategies for navigating it effectively. The Roller Coaster Ride of Breakups A breakup is characterised by fluctuating emotions. One day, you may feel confident and convinced that it was the best decision, while the next day, you might be overwhelmed by sadness and doubt, thinking you'll never recover. This emotional turbulence is entirely normal and should be expected. The journey through a breakup isn't l ..read more

It's easy to associate being back in a relationship with being okay again, being successful, and being on track with everybody else in your age group... But using the idea of getting back into a relationship to fill the void of not feeling good enough, and to take the pain away isn't actually going to help you. It doesn't solve the discomfort we have with ourselves, or take the feeling of insecurity away. When you become single, it feels like society puts the pressure on you to get back straight into a relationship as soon as possible. Assumptions are made that you're not going to remain singl ..read more

Summer is the time to embrace your independence and go on an adventure as a single girl! The weather is warmer and the summer season is nearly here, so if you haven't already started planning your solo girl summer, then it's time! Going away on trips and holidays on your own is a daunting experience but one that empowers your in your independence. There's no need to jump in at the deep end and go abroad on your own if you've never done anything like this before, but it also shouldn't mean that you don't take a flight and miss out on a holiday just because you're single. The benefit of going on ..read more

In dating, everyone seems to focus on connection. You go off the connection you had with someone during a first date, which really means you had enough things in common to relate to one another, had some similar interests and there was just a "vibe" that meant it felt like you knew each other well. And if it isn't connection, it's chemistry. The electricity that appears between two people that can be felt, hopefully by both of you. But there's one crucial factor that often gets overlook but is the key component to build a relationship on and that's compatibility - the degree to which two peopl ..read more

Your attachment style can significantly affect how you approach and maintain relationships, and it's not just something that develops in childhood. Your adult experiences can also shape your attachment style. Negative relationship experiences, whether minor or major, can make you more anxious or avoidant. For instance, if someone comes on too strong, you might shut down and become more avoidant. On the other hand, if someone is inconsistent and fails to follow through on their promises, you might become more anxious and mistrustful. The good news is that your attachment style is not set in sto ..read more

Did you know that your relationship status doesn’t actually affect your overall happiness?! With Valentine’s Day coming up next week, it’s hard to escape the messages about love. Couples are celebrating each other and the FOMO of being in a relationship is slowly building to the peak of the 14th February, and you find yourself thinking… “I’d just be SO MUCH HAPPIER if I was in a relationship!” Well, let's stop you right there. Whilst society might make it seems that all the couples out there are better than you, let's take a look at the science. A study published in the Journal of Positive Psy ..read more

Dinner or drinks isn't a great first date Dinner or drinks might seem like the safe option for a first date, but it's also the BORING option. The amount of first dates that revolve around having dinner or going for drinks means those dates eventually all blur into one and before long, you've exhausted all the local bars and restaurants in your town. If you're worried about what you're going to talk about on your first date, sitting opposite someone with talking as the only activity will increase the pressure on you and the nerves might get to you. With an activity in place, you'll have somethi ..read more

The day of love that can fill a single person's mind with dread: Valentine's Day. Much like Christmas, it's a reminder of the relationship we don't have or it might even remind us of the relationships we did have that are now gone. And even if you aren't particularly fussed about being in a relationship, all kinds of FOMO can creep in with not having that person to spend the day with, which only goes on to remind you of how you don't have someone to message at the end of the day. Being Single on Valentine's Day doesn't have to be such a big deal. Valentine's Day is a day of LOVE. Whilst tradit ..read more

It seems like every time you share that you're dating and haven't yet found a man, you’re met with the same argument: "you’re being too picky:. Your friends, your family, and sometimes even strangers(!) will all tell you that you need to lower your standards if you ever want to find a boyfriend. But here’s the thing: you’re not being too picky by having high standards. In fact, having high standards is one of the best things you can do for yourself in dating. We've been taught to lower our standards Other than people directly telling us to lower our standards, doing so has been implied for yea ..read more

Heartbreak is like grief: it's a process, and it takes time to move through - and there's no "right" way to do it. Everyone handles their own personal heartbreak in different ways, and everyone will experience their own particular brand of heartache. Just as we're all unique individuals with our own personalities, fears, hopes and dreams, we all handle the pain of love differently. But does heartbreak last forever? No one wants to be an insta-rebound; we all want the chance to mourn and move on with our lives. Here are 5 ways you can deal with heartbreak so that you can become a stronger perso ..read more