Submitted by c ur self on 04/19/2024. Communication with ADHD Emotional abuse may be the least recognizable (by others) form of spousal abuse...Putting it simply, it's the product of a person filling a vowed space in another person's life, w/ little to no concern for the needs of that person...It's total emotionless apathy...It's laziness and indifference toward their God given spousal responsibilities...People who are capable of this level of indifference or usually blindly self centered...When a mind is so dominated by "Me" thinking, that mind will never be fit for a healthy relationshi ..read more

Submitted by Grapejuice on 04/02/2024. Communication with ADHD I'll try to keep this short. I've been in a long distance relationship with someone for two years (we used to work together years ago before he moved away). He has ADHD. Things were great, and as I realise now from reading this forum, I was the centre of his hyper fixation for the first few months. He then gradually toned it down and although we were still super close and he was always incredibly caring etc, he would take a week or so to initiate contact after the first year, he would get very stressed about all the millions o ..read more

Submitted by Swedish coast on 03/07/2024. Communication with ADHD I'm having a hard time moving on after divorce. It's been four months since my ADD ex-husband moved out, we text about the children but besides that don't communicate. Its obvious that the same instant I stopped repairing the relationship, there was no longer a relationship. I think he wants things to be normal, meaning me being nice to him. He reaches out occasionally, hoping I'm well, and has offered me coffee at his house when I've come to collect children. I decline since I'm hurt ..read more

Submitted by notanarcissist on 02/03/2024. Communication with ADHD Hi all- I feel like I may be a rarity as I am the spouse with ADHD. Although, the more I learn the more I think perhaps we both had it.    I've been with my wife for five years. I loved her from the minute I saw her. I swear I knew I was meant to spend my life with this girl. Not in the normal adhd way but in the real way. We were long distance for a few months when she needed to take time off work due to her anxiety. I was in school and able to go where she was and help her figure it all out. I was there for her ..read more

Submitted by BettyHeck on 02/02/2024. Communication with ADHD a bit of a background: Im a non-ADHD partner here. My husband was diagnosed recently and for both of us diagnosis was a relieve more than anything else. There is a desire to work on the symptoms, with meds and coaching so its all is going in the right direction. BUT i have just realized that he really thinks its enough to tell me he loves me and live it at that. There are barely any compliments, ever. he is not able to tell me how he would describe me if ever asked. etc etc. I just dont know if this is an ADHD thing or som ..read more

Submitted by Swedish coast on 01/01/2024. Communication with ADHD Today I almost broke down when I met my ex-husband shortly. Even though I reminded myself what he's done, and kept my boundary. He came at me smiling, kind and glowing. So this is who I've divorced. The man whom I've loved for so long. Excuse me, Cantgoback who said the other day that I'm codependent and wrong to call it love.  I'm a mess now, crying because by getting rid of the bad, I also lost the good. I almost destroyed myself to sustain the marriage, and it was not bec ..read more

Submitted by Exhausting on 11/24/2023. Communication with ADHD Do those with ADHD suffer from false memories?  Has anyone had this experience?  My husband can insist with such conviction that I have said something and I just know I haven't because it is always something I know I have never thought, voiced or believed in!!  ..read more

Submitted by Exhausting on 11/23/2023. Communication with ADHD I told my ADHD husband tonight that I have been offered a new job and have accepted it.  I chose not to involve him at all whilst I went through the recruitment process, as I didn't want his negative opinions influencing me as I needed to be very focused in my approach with this role.  Well, I certainly made the wrong decision here.  He absolutely went ballistic and ranted for hours about all the things I have done to hurt him during our marriage.  In hindsight, I should have told him when I ..read more

Submitted by sarge99 on 08/20/2023. Communication with ADHD Hello all, Thank you for reading my post... My girlfriend and I , no kids, and in our 40s and early 50s, were getting to close to engagement. Families like each other and supporting the marriage. Out of nowhere I (don't have adhd) got dumped by my gf.  Her rationale was that starting a new job after not working for 9 months, was too much to handle with a relationship and that her inability to communicate effectively (forgetfulness, inability to follow up, etc) was also upsetting me - which she didn't like but of course ..read more

Submitted by Dubbie33 on 10/16/2023. Communication with ADHD Non-ADHD spouse here. Its been a tough few years. I know this is not where I envisioned myself to be at this stage of my life and I'm understanding and learning how to make changes so that in 5 years (or whenever) I'm still not in this same spot.  However, all signs are pointing to a hard, but badly needed, Come To Jesus Talk - you know, the one talk where you gotta lay it on the table because you realise that it's not only the unmanaged ADHD, but also includes unmanaged anxiety and depression. And its permeated your (My, a ..read more