This episode features Dr. Vecchione Finneran giving tips and a better understanding of what chronic toxic stress is. Ways to help yourself when burnt out ..read more

This episode covers finding courage deep within and how to over come feeling defeated in the face of rejection and maltreatment. Ambivalence with feeling scared and loved and safe all at the same time from care takers and partners is also covered ..read more

This episode focuses on unknowingly using the abuse cycle and being attracted to emotionally unavailable people as a soothing mechanism for our nervous system. When safe still doesn’t feel safe and absent betrayal confirmation still feels scary. Goals of being patient with our process and becoming more securely attached are also covered. For R ..read more

This episode covers the damaging effects of chronic gaslighting, manipulation, blame shifting, and how to overcome them in arguments. Identity crisis and being psychologically programmed to believe jealousy and obsession equate to security are also covered. For KRS ..read more

This episode covers development of grandiosity within a narcissistic personality. Signs of someone living in an “ideal” version of reality and why it’s impossible to have a healthy/ functional relationship with them. Education on NPD pathology helping partners to release responsibility for the painful dynamic they are experiencing ..read more

This episode covers helpful ways to reframe distorted versions of holidays and memories we remember while we are sad and struggling. How to snap out of it and come back to your inner peace. Happy Fourth of July ..read more

This episode features Dr. Michelle Finneran discussing why abusive patterns are repeated through generational trauma and how the mother/ daughter dynamic effects us when our mom suffers from abuse in front of us growing up. Individualization from family origin and being the cycle breaker is also discussed. For K & M ..read more

Dr. Finneran, psychotherapist drops in as guest speaker to talk about Stockholm Syndrome, trauma bonding, getting proper support, and healing after abuse. Avoiding re-engaging in another abusive dynamic is also discussed ..read more

This episode focuses on gaining insight into how abusers use pity, guilt, and blame shifting to distract us from their hurtful behavior. Description of how we get to a point where we feel like we are the abusive partner, and chronically believe we are the cause and are responsible for the pain we experience with an abusive partner. How to trust yourself again, and the self forgiveness felt when you finally know for sure….It’s not me. It’s you ..read more

This episode focuses on the trauma bond formed from triangulation. How continuous cheating creates intermittent wounding and the effects of the “reuniting” stage. Abuser’s tactics to keep the victim in the relationship, blame shifting, and gas lighting are also discussed ..read more