Have you considered meeting a man in real life versus at an online dating site? When I pose this question to the women I speak with, they often tell me they’re not sure where single men over 50 are hanging out. Hiding in Plain Sight Let’s clear that mystery up once and for all. Men are everywhere! But the reason it’s hard to meet them is because we tend to go to the same places over and over again. We simply get in the pattern of staying within a 3- to 5-mile radius of where we live. Just think about the same restaurants you go to or the same movie theaters you frequent. We are creatures of h ..read more

Different choices bring about different outcomes. Dating can be tough and discouraging. Love isn’t always easy. Relationships take effort. It’s normal to feel disheartened if things aren’t going the way you hoped in your romantic life. Today, I’ll talk about some factors that might be hindering your search for “the one.” Making some adjustments could lead to more positive outcomes. You probably know the old adage, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” When I listen to new or prospective clients talk about dating, this runs th ..read more

Dating? Ok, just go with me here. Stay with me. This is about dating. I’m a sports fan – I hit Spring Training on Sunday in Florida with the Red Sox and Yankees and watched my team wipe out the opponent. And now I’m caught up in March Madness and was glued to multiple channels a few nights ago. And saw some things that reminded me of dating. (After over 25 years of being a dating coach, I can compare any sport to dating… you’ll probably hear me write soon about my idol Messi and comparing soccer to dating). Is online dating a long shot? I don’t think so. As I watched long odds Oakland Univers ..read more

It’s no secret that women over 60 have extremely high standards as they experience the dating scene. You are smart, independent, and savvy and don’t want to settle for anything less than you already have. You’ve built a beautiful life for yourself. The problem is, you’ve built a beautiful life for one, and it gets lonely. Unfortunately, when you meet someone new, it’s typical to evaluate him based on your ‘list’. Everyone has one, even if you don’t have it written down. And it’s human nature to naturally look for a reason to say “No” rather than “Yes.” Your brain is working overtime to keep y ..read more

These are my 10 rules of online dating based on tons of hours spent online with clients for over 25 years. As you read over them, note down how many of them you follow, then score yourself at the bottom. Here we go: Fake It Till You Make It Self-confidence is attractive. So, you’ve been widowed or divorced and not been on a first date since your 20s or 30s? No time better than the present. Practice Makes Perfect You won’t get it right the first time around, but that shouldn’t surprise you or wipe your motivation. It’s tough to find yourself online, staring at the 318 potential men that showed ..read more

One of the most common complaints I hear from my coaching clients about first dates is that they didn’t feel any chemistry. So often we expect it to feel like a bolt of lightning like you see in the movies. We forget, we live in real life, not in a movie. Can it happen? Sure. But realize that this is more likely a chemical reaction rather than an emotional connection. It’s a love vs. lust concept. If you don’t feel that sizzle as soon as you meet someone, it doesn’t mean there won’t ever be any chemistry between you two. It simply means it may need time to develop. Most women don’t realize th ..read more

It seems like at every stage of life we say, “Well, they’re at that age.” Whether it’s teething, or asking why every five seconds, or moodiness, or midlife blues, or reinventing ourselves. In our 60s, we’re at that age where we often find ourselves newly divorced, newly widowed, or sprouting wings as we continue to fly solo. Are You Out of the Dating Loop? As baby boomers, we can wake up one day and find ourselves completely out of the loop when it comes to navigating the online dating world. I was 43 when my husband left, and since I had been married from the age of 20, I had never really da ..read more

As always, I like to bring my real dating experiences to you so we can all learn together from these relevant lessons. So, today’s article is about Bob (not his real name). I connected with Bob on Match.com, which is where I meet most of the men I date. I really enjoy online dating and believe it’s a good fit for me. Texting or Calling? We chatted through the platform for a day or so and then exchanged phone numbers so we could connect more personally. Typically, I like to go from text to a phone call, and then to a date all within about seven days. It helps keep the fire blazing until we can ..read more

Oh, February 14 – love it or ignore it! It makes me think of the movie Love Actually, and all the types of love in the world – romantic, unrequited, familial, love across languages and races, love despite status, love after death, brotherly/sisterly love… and so much more. Remember, it’s a Hallmark holiday. February was most likely a dead retail month – and this day invigorated sales: candy, flowers (A friend of mine who works with UPS told me about the planes full of flowers being flown in from South America just for 2/14!), perfume, anything pink or red! No Date on the Horizon for Valentine ..read more

So, you’ve been browsing this dating site and found someone that you liked. You sent a lovely and uniquely crafted message a few days ago, but it feels like it fell into a black hole. Where is he and why hasn’t he responded? This question comes up daily; as a dating coach I sometimes receive it 5-6 times per day when I am online with a client on a dating site. Now, the first thing you need to remember is to avoid negative thoughts. Yes, it feels like a personal slight. But really, think about this: Is every man going to respond with a message to you? Are YOU going to respond to every man? Sec ..read more