THE NARCISSIST IS SO VULNERABLE AND YOU CAN CAUSE THEM TO SUFFER FROM NARCISSISTIC INJURIES TOO! POST NO.28/N (A 15 minute read) Some weeks ago now I found myself a style guide on YouTube. With my thoughts gathering ever more towards the future ME, it was one of this lady´s (FRENCH CHIC) videos in which she talked of self-respect, that gave me something of a kick up the backside! It was just what I NEEDED to hear. It makes for very interesting listening and here is the link for that video: 18 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE NOT BEING ELEGANT! Though why I ever NEEDED to find advice from professio ..read more

THE NARCISSIST PUTS SO MUCH EFFORT INTO ENMESHING YOU WELL AND GOOD INITIALLY, BECAUSE HE KNOWS HE IS UP AGAINST THE CLOCK! POST NO.27/N (A 15 minute read) I think that is what most staggers me now as I continue to learn the depths of the NARCISSIST´S evil, warped psychology. That is why there is such intensity to the initial LOVE-BOMBING phase, such a rush to get settled into living together, he is giving your "SEDUCTION" and "CAPTURE" everything that he has got! One has to recognize too his own situation at the time of meeting as well as your own situation and mine had a certain URGENCY fact ..read more

A COLLECTION OF EPISODES EVENTUALLY BECOME A SERIES! SHOULD THERE BE A SECOND SERIES? POST NO.26/N (A 14 minute read) Having found myself beginning to strengthen at long last, thanks to my new found knowledge and learning, I now find myself obliged to undertake a course organized by the local government to help fifty something year old women get themselves better prepared for employment! Whether this has come at a better or worse time I am unsure for the moment. I am reserving judgement but none the less, this is just what a person trying to heal from NARCISSISTIC ABUSE must do. I have been sa ..read more

THE NARCISSIST LIVES WITH THE PERMANENT FEAR OF HIS FALSE-SELF BEING DISCOVERED, HENCE HIS PARANOIC, HYPER-VIGILANT VIEW OF HIS SURROUNDINGS! POST NO.25/N (A 14 minute read) Spend any length of time with a NARCISSIST and you will notice how their eyes are always looking all around them. How they are rarely looking at you but rather at others who may be looking at you, or him! His only concern is how others are viewing him and of course, YOU! The NARCISSIST suffers from PARANOIA and believes that most people are out to REVEAL his true identity and as such, is always on the alert for any look th ..read more

A NARCISSIST IS CONSTANTLY DEVALUING YOU TO THEN DISCARD YOU! WHY DOES HE DO THIS? POST NO.24/N (A 14 minute read) Having been told by my NARCISSIST partner that he really loved "CHEDDAR" cheese, knowing as I did where "CHEDDAR" cheese was made and that as we were not too far away from the tiny, little town of CHEDDAR in the county of Somerset, England, I made the suggestion that we drive there and do some REAL CHEDDAR cheese tasting!! I had travelled to CHEDDAR in my childhood with the family and I remembered visiting some spectacular caves too. This sounded like a great mix of past times tha ..read more

THE NARCISSIST LIVES IN CONTINUAL CYCLES, WHICH AS EACH ONE GOES ROUND AND ROUND RIGHT BACK TO THE BEGINNING AGAIN, THEY DIG THEMSELVES DEEPER AND DEEPER DOWN! AND THEY WILL TAKE YOU DOWN WITH THEM TOO! POST NO.23/N (An 11 minute read) Between my sister and NARCISSIST, I had just been witness to a full NARCISSISTIC life cycle. The LOVE-BOMBING phase, when two people as yet unknown to each other meet and try to impress the other by being charming, flirty, funny and amenable. That I clearly saw both my sister and NARCISSIST do. They were both showing their FALSE-SELVES of course, but they were t ..read more

I ALWAYS FELT THAT THE TELEVISION WAS AS SOCIAL AS IT WAS ANTI-SOCIAL BUT TO BE REPLACED BY A TELEVISION REALLY SUCKS!! POST NO.22/N  (A 12 minute read) I was really quite surprised at how our luggage had grown since we (my nephew Puppy and I), had arrived in Spain now nine months ago. We had stayed one month in the first place. One month in the second place and seven months in this latest apartment. Onto our fourth apartment now then and with an extra member on board. My late elder sister had come to visit in the August in the second place for two weeks and had brought a loaded suitcase ..read more

MY WOULD BE PRINCE CHARMING JUST COULD NOT DO ENOUGH TO HELP ME! POST NO.21/N  (A 16 minute read) That speed and rush to get you sorted out! And I thought it was his good will!?!? That must be seen as a RED FLAG warning, mustn´t it? He has literally dropped everything that he might have had on so that he can help you get better organized. Even with the best will in the world, I don´t think that many people would be able to be available 24 hours a day, now would they? There were just another ten days before my rent contract needed renewing and he thought that my rental conditions were rath ..read more

THE NARCISSIST BEGINS TO WRITE HIS NEW SCRIPT AND YOU HAVE BEEN UNWITTINGLY CHOSEN TO PLAY THE SECONDARY ROLE! POST NO.20/N (An 11 minute read) That is what I can see so very clearly right now but it has taken a very long time to do so. It has been thanks to the psychologists, self-confessed victims of NARCISSISTIC ABUSE and two self-confessed NARCISSIST´S videos on Youtube, that have actually allowed me to see at long last what face values all my dominoes really have. Each domino is being offered to me by this new NARCISSIST. The FALSE-SELF is in fact the blank side of the domino. That is the ..read more

NEVER BE SINCERE WITH THE TERMINALLY INSINCERE! IN OTHER WORDS; DON´T GIVE ANY OF YOUR MOST PERSONAL DETAILS TO A NARCISSIST! POST NO.19/N  (A 12 minute read) The NARCISSIST extracts as much personal information from you as he can as soon as he meets you. Be warned though, EVERYTHING you say, CAN and WILL, be used against you at some point in time. Indeed, much of what you have shared in INTIMACY with your NARCISSIST will become HIS rod to beat you with. You wish that you had never shared those details with him, you realize that you have been so sincere with him. What is the problem with ..read more