3 Pillars for Becoming a Pleasured Woman This January is a perfect time to bring more intention and impact to any goal you may have - particularly BODY goals like weight loss, exercise, meditation, or leisure. There are three pillars of becoming a PLEASURED WOMAN -- sexier, more confident, and able to rock any goal she desires. Part 1: Mindset and how your brain holds all the magic.  Stay tuned for the next episodes on becoming your sexiest woman this year: Part 2: Pleasure Now Part 3: Surroundings, Style & Relationships See Less ..read more

Seriously, I'm like a recovering New Year Resolution fiend.  I would make a flurry of goals and fail at all of them by February but would continue to shame myself into "trying harder."   I propose a shortcut to making sustainable changes, particularly in your love life. 1. Set an intention/goal for your sex life 2. Imagine how you'd feel having attained that. 3. Start feeling that NOW in order to create it.  Listen on to find out my formula for this so you can create your hottest year yet ..read more

You CAN love sex, even if your marriage is on the rocks. The key is to cultivate the cornerstone emotions of calm, curiosity, courage and confidence.  Perhaps no small task, but here is a three step process I teach my clients.  ..read more

What do you do when your partner wants DIFFERENT things than you sexually? We’ve ALL been there… clearly NOT wanting the same things in the bedroom and then wondering what the hell??? Is it him? Is he a weirdo? Am I?? In this episode, I’ll talk about what it means to have a Sexual Want Match, how to bridge the space between what you both want (and don’t), and what to do if there is a BIG discrepancy! I mention my teacher Brooke Castillo’s lesson about Want Matches on her podcast, HERE.  ALSO, if you want to submit your Erotic Memoir or get on the waitlist for your free Pussy Activation ..read more

I was recently asked about my self care routines and I thought, my self-care is EXQUISITE.   My XXXquisite self-care (that is, incorporating my WHOLE self) requires me to quiet my brain and seek deep pleasure for my body. Here is my simple flow chart if you want to follow along with your own BIG SEXY CREATIVE FLOW CHART.   ..read more

A selfish woman: Takes up space, Knows what she likes & doesn’t like, Gives direction and means it Says NO to shit she doesn’t want to do & Gets curious about why Invests in herself Prioritizes her pleasure Gets creative Pursues & leads Challenges herself and others… all that? It’s fucking sexy. So stop judging yourself for it! Go on... get grabby ..read more

Ummm, flirting and marriage may seem like an oxymoron, but oh no no, it's a SUPER easy way to add way more fun and pleasure to your foreplay (which should begin immediately after orgasm to quote Esther Perel). Here are three easy steps to flirt with that hunky man (or cheeky wife). 1. Set some rules  2. Create lots of "maybe" 3. PLAY like you mean it xx ..read more

Are you getting most your pleasure and desire for food and alcohol?  What in your life ISN'T getting fair "desire time" (aka where are you denying yourself bigger, splashier pleasure in life and settling "good enough"). Penny Gambill is a chef, over-drinking coach, and desire extraordinaire.  Listen on for how to create bigger pleasure, hotter sex and less dependence on booze and treats.  ..read more

Today I'm sharing a fun conversation with Jessica Leroux a chef turned life coach all about being present for pleasure and waking all of up your senses while eating. The sounds The visual delights The details The nuances of taste The smells The textures & temperatures The ENERGY... AND wanting pleasure (on your terms). Mindless eating feels empty, disappointing and shamey... And so does mindless, disconnected sex (solo or partnered) Listen on as we talk about junk food and junk orgasms... and how to enhance our pleasure in both areas. (Follow Jess for more fun on Instagram @heckyescoa ..read more

Play is 100% essential and crucial in your life (and sex life, duh). But why does it seem so hard and ambiguous lately? Too much to do, it's a waste of time, I don't know what feels fun anymore... the brain chatter slogs on. Here's a simple way to guide yourself back into a flow state for way better creativity and hotter sex.  ..read more