This is episode 100, and I wanted to do something a little different for our one-hundredth episode, and I was struggling to figure out what that should be.  Then an opportunity presented itself.  You see, my children are in 4H, and if you don’t know what 4H is, many people describe it as “scouts for farm kids.”   That’s not quite accurate, as we have some kids from the city in our club as well, but a lot of the projects tend to involve farm animals of some sort, and so farm kids naturally gravitate towards those.  But we also do things like archery.  In genera ..read more

November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Spouse falls asleep during romantic getaway Husband wants her to wear revealing clothes Public sex Are we responsible for our dreams? How to encourage your spouse to be healthier Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) 37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sex Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and e ..read more

October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet other people? Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight? Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Cou ..read more

September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where are you? How to hide bruises What role do I have in God changing my heart? Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husband How to recover from faking orgasms? Husband wants to be pursued Where do you get your garbage theology? Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Course CovenantEyes - Porn and more ..read more

Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A reader posed the following question: Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic. Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Anonymous have a question page What does our physiology say about who should lead? According to the Bible, which gender should lead? TheLionWithin.us - Leadership for Christian ..read more

August 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Coming clean about faking orgasms Wanting wife to wear a diaper Wet and messy / humiliation fetish Is oral sex a measure of love? Married and lonely Chastity play Sex outdoors Pre-orgasmic wife Last chance to jump in on our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a great way to add some intimacy to the holidays. Interested in learning more? Check it out here and get 25% off with the coupon code BLACKFRIDAY Here are the links I mentio ..read more

Who is more righteous? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A reader posed the following question: There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin ..read more

Alright, this is part 2 of our anonymous questions from January 2019. For those who are new to the podcast, we have a page titled Have A Question. We received so many questions in January that I had to split the answers up into multiple podcasts. So this is part 2 of 3. I’ve been trying to group the questions together to make it a little easier.  This episode I’m tackling all the questions about anal sex (for some reason we get a lot of them), as well as some orgasm questions. I also wanted to give a quick shout out to our supporters who helped push us over our first support go ..read more

I’m preaching this weekend in my home church, and so, I thought I’d share my sermon, both because I feel bad that I haven’t been working as much on getting podcast episodes out because of it, and because I thought it might be a good way to practice it, do some final editing and figure out how long it would be.   So, the audio is a recording of me reading through it, and here’s the text for those who prefer to read. A few weeks ago, my pastor approached myself and two others and asked if we’d be willing to preach this month.  He wanted us to preach something encouraging, b ..read more

It’s summer here at Uncovering Intimacy headquarters, and man it’s hot!  Today and tomorrow, it’s supposed to be 40 degrees Celsius with the humidity (104F).  So, I’m sitting in my office with the air conditioning on trying to get this podcast out. Today we’re going to be answering some more questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.   But first, I want to share something that’s pretty cool.  You may have heard me mention that we revamped our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course and our pilot group is just about finishing it off.  They’ve been ..read more