Traveling with a partner can be magical, or it can be stressful as hell. This week, we’re discussing the pitfalls and best practices of taking trips with someone you’re dating.   Hotel Sex | Different Version of Yourself | Compatibility Test | Travel & Polyamory | How Soon? | Stress & Arguments | Time Apart | Early Trips | Overstimulation vs. Calm | Conferences & Camp Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.     ..read more

What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, boundaries, “leagues,” dealbreakers, and more.   Male Attention | Horrors of Singledom | Self-Judgment | Gender Differences | “Leagues” | Rejection | Insecurities | Chemistry | Wanting vs. Being Wanted | Monogamy vs. Polyamory | Friend of a Friend Matchmaking | Bad Standards | What ARE “Standards”? | Attractions Changing | Good Standards | Setting Standards | Preference vs. Fetishization Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patr ..read more

There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts and feelings on various forms of size kink.   Littleness vs. Age Play | Vore | Eating & Swallowing | Cannibalism (7:52–11:40) | Giantesses | Tinies | Toy Story | Human Size Variations | Kissing | Height Preferences | Gender | CNC | How to Emphasize Size Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show ..read more

This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a tattoo artist.   Dildo Nerds | New Logo | Listened to Every Episode | Fifty Shades | Favorite Part | Separate Personas | Piercing | Tattooing | Alt Culture | Traditions vs. Colonialism | Flash Art | Kinky Tattooing Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.     ..read more

Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jessica Fern | Differing Compatibilities | Friendships vs. Romance | Dean Spade Essay | Building Your Own Escalator | Professional & Creative Partnerships | Social Media | Collars | Money Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by  Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.     ..read more

Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic from New Zealand who has studied porn addiction discourse and the NoFap movement, about all of the above and more.   Origin Story | Masculinity | New or Old? | NoFap Research | Homoeroticism in NoFap | Women on NoFap | Giving Pleasure | Eroticizing Self-Denial | Dust Breeding | Barriers & Tension | Sexual Fantasy | Male Pleasure | Flure App | Porn Dependency | “No Porn” Rule | Fantastical Fantasies | Vibrators | A Cyborg Manifesto | Solit ..read more

Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to improve your flirting, domming, or subbing.   Vibrators Dying | Improv Crushes | Take an Improv Class | The Excitement of Humor | Collaboration | Repetition | Tension & Release | Too Much Laughing? | Read the Room | Nothosaur Toys | Breath Play | Nerves & Anxiety | Aftercare | On the Same Page | Making a Top Laugh | Humiliation Play | Funny Kink Scenes | Commit to the Bit Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by amy Become a patron to ..read more

Watching porn while in a relationship can be more contentious than watching it while single; this week, we theorize on why that is, and answer listener questions about watching porn with partners.   Is OnlyFans Cheating? | Economics | Insecurities & Anxieties | What Porn is For | Extreme Tastes | Watching Porn During Oral | Nothosaur Toys | Sharing Passwords | Porn Stars’ Appearance | Queer Porn with Straight Partners Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by amy Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned o ..read more

With Valentine’s Day having just passed, this week we tried to figure out what “romance” actually is.   Consistency | Autism & Aromanticism | Love, Inc. | Romantic Attraction | Friendship | New Relationship Energy | Media Love | Nothosaur Toys | What’s Romantic To You? | Reciprocity | Examples of Romance | Surprise | Spontaneous Kisses | Thinking of You | Vulnerability | Sex Games | Remembering Preferences Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by amy Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show ..read more

What happens when a sex toy reviewer quits using vibrators? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss her recent break from using vibes, the reasons for it, and the results of the experiment.   Why? | Vibrator Habituation | Research Questions | Sensitivity | Orgasm Threshold | Orgasm Intensity | Tools | Quitting? | Slowing Down | Sex Ed | How Long It Takes | Manual Stimulation | Hand Weakness | Mental Aspect | Flure | Readjusting | Withdrawal | Polyamory Clause | Natural/Intimate | Alcohol | Internal Spots | Libido & Satisfaction | New Techniques | Mood | Big Nut Credits: Music by PRO ..read more