Build intimacy and friendship with you partner: Learn the tools you need to become a good listener The post How to Become a Good Listener (Tools for a Happy Marriage)  appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

In this 6th installment in a Therapist's Guide to EFT we explore the psychology of the withdrawer The post A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Psychology of Withdrawers (Lesson 6) appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Working with Enactments In today's lesson we will looking at the concept of enactments, which are one of the main ways EFT therapists try to effect change in the way couples interact with each other. Lesson 4: What You will Learn in Today's EFT Lesson: Techniques Used in the EFT Method: EFT is not just a roadmap for where we  The post A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Enactments (Lesson 4) appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Tracking Negative Cycles and Working with Emotions in EFT In today's lesson we will be looking at how the emotionally focused couples therapist helps couples through step 1-4 of the therapy process. This process involves identifying negative cycles and understanding how they are generated. Once this understanding has been accomplished couples are helped to expand their awareness of unacknowledged and  The post A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Working with Emotions in EFT (Lesson 3) appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Steps and Stages of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy In today's lesson we will be looking at the sequence couples have to go through to complete a full course of emotionally focused couples therapy. As we saw in part 1, EFT provides an attachment understanding of why couples end up having relationship problems. With this in mind, part 2 provides a  The post A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Steps and Stages (Lesson 2) appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Attachment Theory as the Foundation for Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy In my work as a couples therapist in both my private practice and at the University of Houston I have often been in a teaching role to newer therapists wanting to learn more about becoming a couples therapist. As a certified emotionally-focused couples therapist this has meant teaching newer therapists more  The post A Therapist’s Guide to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Attachment (Lesson 1) appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Having good boundaries in a relationship is immensely important. Whenever boundaries are either too strict or too loose the relationship suffers... If boundaries are too loose they can become an existential threat to the relationship: A relationship can only exist when clear boundaries are drawn around a couple and the sanctity of the relationship is honored and respected. If boundaries  The post Do You Have Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationship? appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

A common source of conflict in couples is how to best raise children together. Parenting is a stressful endeavor and often brings out deep-rooted differences in how each person believes their children should be raised. One person might be more authoritarian and strict whereas the other is more egalitarian and permissive, or one person might have more conservative values that  The post How Couples Can Resolve Differences in Parenting Styles appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

What to do when your partner continues to express dissatisfaction with your relationship? Learn how to address this issue without losing yourself in the process. The post What to Do if Your Partner is Always Unhappy or Dissatisfied about Your Relationship appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more

Learn how to best communicate with your partner if you are feeling unfulfilled in your relationship. The post What to Do if You Are Feeling Unfulfilled in Your Relationship appeared first on Better Couples Therapy ..read more