3 Narrative Therapy Interventions When You’re Worried About ADHD Wrecking Your Marriage You may not recognize how you construct stories in your mind about your partner, making negative assumptions about their actions and intentions. Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, helps you separate yourself from your narratives and problems with the use of narrative therapy interventions. As part of this model, you will learn that ADHD may be a challenge, but it does not have to define you, your self-image and your relationship.  Narratives, such as “I’m not good enough ..read more

What To Do When You’re Tired Of Giving & Getting Nothing In Return Your partner and friends always call you for help and know they can count on you. You love helping and giving to others. But sometimes there’s a point when you have given and given and given more, and you may not know what to do if you have pushed past your limit – when you’re tired of giving and getting nothing in return. How To Know If You Are Giving Too Much To Others When you feel resentment, anger or frustration toward the person or the situation, then you know that you have given too much. When your internal conversat ..read more

Relationship Resolutions: Create A New Spark for the New Year The beginning of the year brings new and renewed resolutions and commitments to our professional careers, academic endeavors, family connections, and personal growth. Frequently, we wonder about what possibilities and opportunities will arise in 2024. As we reflect on our lives and our relationships, we consider new relationship resolutions for our ongoing journey of connection.  What Is A Relationship Resolution? Relationship resolutions can be an opportunity to strengthen, improve or fix your relationship. They can reignite l ..read more

Understanding The Connection Between ADHD and Attachment Styles In the U.S., around 5% of adults have some form of ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Some common ADHD symptoms can include restlessness, problems with staying organized, impulsive behaviors, difficulty expressing emotions, and trouble listening. Certain ADHD symptoms, like difficulty expressing emotions, paired with the individual’s early life experiences, can create insecure attachment styles. As a result, they may have great difficulty managing relationships in adulthood. This can be particularly challenging for ro ..read more

Why Kindness Is An Important, Perhaps The Most Important, Quality In A Loving Marriage It’s easy to be kind to your co-workers, friends and acquaintances. But after working all day, you are tired and want to “let your hair down” at home. You might even ask yourself, “After a long day at work, why is kindness important to my spouse? He knows I love him.” Another wrench in the gears in demonstrating kindness is that co-workers and friends appreciate your kindness. Usually they compliment and appreciate what you do for them and say, “Thank you” and reciprocate the kindness.   You might ..read more

13 ADHD Communication Styles That Create Conflict In Most Marriages ADHD affects marriage in different areas, such as organization, time management, and conflict resolution. In addition to ADHD’s impact on marriage, ADHD partners need to learn each other’s communication styles. When you understand how these ADHD communication difficulties present themselves, you can more effectively navigate conversations with your partner.  How does ADHD Affect Relationships? Impulsivity, inattentiveness and hyperactivity all impact ADHD marriages on some level. Due to ADHD symptoms, you may feel frustra ..read more

5 Ways To Love Your Partner In Their Love Language (Not Your Own) Most of us want to be loved, treasured and appreciated. Most of us wish to express these same feelings toward our partners.  To successfully communicate our love we need to express it in the way our partners will understand and feel it. It is as though you need to learn the language to know how to love your partner. When you learn your partner’s love language you will have the key to successfully communicating your love.  What Are The 5 Love Languages? Dr. Gary Chapman noticed a recurring theme when counseling couples ..read more

Why Gottman’s Four Horsemen (Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt & Stonewalling) Are So Destructive To A Happy Marriage If you have ever wondered what indicators signal the beginning of the end of a relationship, you’re not alone.  Many people – both laymen and professionals – have pondered the same question, and after over four decades of research, Dr. John Gottman presented the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, describing the four most common behaviors that characterize a spiraling marriage.  When you learn about these behaviors you can utilize techniques to stop them in their tr ..read more

Gray Divorce Regrets: 8 Considerations Before Ending Your Marriage When it comes to divorce, many people enter and finish the process with regrets. There will always be questions about how things could’ve been different, but the more you can consider and learn from the regrets that others have, the less likely you are to end up regretting the decisions you make throughout the process of your gray divorce. What is gray divorce? Gray divorce is a term used for divorces between older adults. It gets its name from the idea that people in this group, usually 50+, have gray hair. This type of d ..read more

What Causes Resentment In A Marriage (Plus How You Can Heal Resentment In Yours) You may ask yourself, “What causes resentment?” or “Why am I feeling resentful?”.  No one likes to be taken for granted, feel unappreciated or devalued, but if your partner does something that causes you to feel that way,  you may feel resentful. You expect that your spouse will cherish and care for you, but when you find instead you are unintentionally or intentionally taken for granted this can lead to many negative emotions. You might start out feeling disappointed, frustrated or hurt that you are not ..read more