From me  to you, the man beside me Yesterday, you opened up to me about the feelings of rejection and the sexual frustration you sometimes face when you desire intimacy, and I may not reciprocate. I love you deeply, and I aim to communicate my intention to connect with the depths of your heart and your loving essence through these words. It pains me to witness you in this state – vulnerable, sensitive, and yearning. It holds great significance for me to experience you in this way – open, exposed, and communicative. I appreciate your willingness to share your emotions and thoughts with ..read more

I yearn to see genuine sexual love I’d like to offer some guidance to those in the business of creating films, series, and plays on how to direct, act, and edit scenes depicting sexual love. I’m weary of the shallowness pervasive in popular content. It often resembles pornography more than authentic love. I’m referring to mainstream content, not explicit adult material. Let’s put an end to the tired cliché that a bachelorette party must always involve a stripper, as if it somehow represents an acceptable celebration before making the mature and conscious choice to marry or commit to a profo ..read more

Is Growing Sexual Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Truth or Fantasy?   Several years ago, I came across Esther Pearl’s book, “Erotic Intelligence.”  The enticing title caught my attention, and I anticipated a fascinating read.  Encountering a researcher who discusses sexuality as openly as I do, and who imparts profound wisdom on such a significant topic, brought me joy. Upon delving deeper into the concepts she presents regarding the interplay between healthy, passionate sexual expression and the need for emotional distance within a partnership, a sense of disharmony perm ..read more

How should I touch my partner I received a question this morning:  How should I touch my partner when we are intimate in bed, at the beginning, before any  sexual contact? My partner wants us to take things slowly, for me to touch her with love  and not directly in a sexually way, and it’s difficult for me. It’s challenging both because I’m  attracted to her and because, objectively, it’s difficult when she’s naked (even if she’s  covered with a blanket). Additionally, I’ve come to realize that my approach doesn’t work.  I’m not lashing out; I just struggle to ..read more

Between him and her I received a question this morning:  How should I touch my partner when we are intimate in bed, at the beginning, before any  sexual contact? My partner wants us to take things slowly, for me to touch her with love  and not directly in a sexually way, and it’s difficult for me. It’s challenging both because I’m  attracted to her and because, objectively, it’s difficult when she’s naked (even if she’s  covered with a blanket). Additionally, I’ve come to realize that my approach doesn’t work.  I’m not lashing out; I just struggle to touch her ..read more

You lead at my pace   The oldest and most inaccurate misconception in the realm of sexuality is the belief that men or male energy should be the ones leading the act of love. It is presumed that they know what to do, and it is the rhythm of male energy that determines the movement while female energy adjusts to it. However, the reality is quite different. When men with dominant male energy take the lead, many women who possess dominant female energy are trampled under the excessively intense rhythm imposed by the men. It’s akin to having a set of drums (symbolizing male energy) and a ..read more

Touching Not Touching Eroticism is the experience of the body and the subtle energetic space that surrounds it.  It happens in the space between breaths, in the gentle shadow that falls on the bodies approaching each other, and in the breath that inhales and exhales, warming and caressing those who move in the act of love. Eroticism is an unpredictable dance, sensitive to every nuance, both total and unbridled.  I feel that we live in an overly sexual era where eroticism has been forgotten both in the bedroom and outside of it. Try the following ‘Touching Not Touching’ exercise ..read more

Mother, my first teacher of love There is a saying that when we lose someone we understand their value to us. My mother was injured in a car accident and died on the spot 22 years ago. I was 26, she was 56. From then until today my love for her grows every day, her presence is with me and I feel loved, protected and nourished by her. Endless small and big moments of togetherness revolve in my consciousness, she was a caring mother, her children were her whole world. I want to say, still. The fact that she does not live in a body does not change the goodness she radiates, a high sensitivity ..read more

Message from the universal yoni A few days ago, I wrote. “A message from the universal Yoni If I am wet, it doesn’t mean that I want touch or that I want sex.  and If I am dry, it doesn’t mean that I don’t want it.” Upon reading this message, a male friend asked me a fabulous question that merits a separate post.   His question was:  What reasons can cause dryness of the yoni that are not related to sexual attraction?   Here are some answers in service of the community:   I don’t feel like direct touch in my yoni right now, but I really want to receive touch all ..read more

Can fear be a blessing or have I lost my mind? A little while ago I wrote a post that began with the words; ” For the last couple of days, I’ve felt a tremor of fear in my heart. Fear is a blessing…” When I read the comments left by my readers, I realized that maybe it’s not entirely clear how fear can be experienced as a blessing.  So, allow me to explain: When I was eight years old, for no evident reason, except for the violence that was the normal language in the house where I grew up, I felt fear at high intensity, I realized I was afraid of people. My tender young heart felt scrat ..read more