Have you ever found yourselves caught in the exhausting cycle of coming home from work, feeling drained, and avoiding any hint of intimacy? It's a scenario that many couples can relate to – when the allure of relaxation takes priority over the desire for connection. While it's entirely normal for couples to experience ebbs and flows in their sexual intimacy as they journey through life together, it's essential to recognize when these fluctuations become more than just a phase. When one or both partners consistently feel their emotional and physical needs remain unaddressed or misunderstood, i ..read more

Top 10 Takeaways from the New York Times Bestselling book Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. A quick note: the descriptions used below refer to a person’s biological categories – the anatomical descriptions that are often considered “male” and “female” – however, there are plenty of men, women, nonbinary, and trans folx who do not fit into these categories. As the author, Emily Nagoski, states, “trans and nonbinary people deserve excellent, science-based, pleasure-oriented sex education, too...” yet there is still too little re ..read more

Unfortunately, we do not currently live in a world that teaches us to love and accept our bodies. Instead, we are taught to be hyper critical of what our bodies look like and how they perform. As Dr. Emily Nagoski puts it in her book ‘Come As You Are’, when we are born most of us are celebrated and called beautiful bundles of joy; every roll, wrinkle, and hair is adored. Then somewhere along the way we start to believe there is something wrong with us, with our bodies, and we begin to reject the bodies we were born into. While it takes time to break down the habits of criticism and origins of ..read more

Did you know that the biggest and strongest sexual organ is the brain? What’s happens in our mind during a sexual experience greatly affects the quality of sex we will have. If our minds are focusing on what needs to get done tomorrow or the dog barking outside, then we aren’t fully present and therefore aren’t experiencing the fullness of pleasure or connection we are capable of. The first step in reining in a wandering brain, is to take notice of where the mind travels. Once we know where it’s going, then we can establish how to reroute its attention. The Never Ending To Do List Do you consi ..read more

Does your partner struggle with anxiety? Maybe they have a formal anxiety disorder diagnosis, or perhaps your partner hasn’t sought formalized care, yet their anxious feelings are very real. Regardless, it’s not uncommon to feel utterly at a loss as to how you can support them. Below are a few things you can do to support the one you love as they move through their anxiety. Remember, you’re not responsible for another person’s experience, but your supportive attitude and love for your partner can go a long way. 1. Educate yourself about anxiety. You’ll be better able to support your anxious p ..read more

Aromatherapy is based on the use of pure essential oils that are extracted from plants. The scents create alternate pathways in the brain and body to help us to relax, balance, rejuvenate, and otherwise enhance physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being . Certain aromas can be used to enable us to go beyond our thoughts and feelings to experience the silent source within us. What are essential oils? Essential oils are the highly concentrated parts/essences of aromatic plants. They can be derived from all parts of the plant: flowers (rose), wood (sandalwood), bark (cinnamon), leaves (basil ..read more

Have you ever wondered about what it would be like to have two girlfriends? Two boyfriends? Or a spouse and another partner? Have you ever looked at a person and thought, “wow, I want to be with them?” and it have no bearing whatsoever on how much you love your current partner? Open relationships are becoming much more common in the public light. While they have been happening since the dawn of people, now they are becoming more socially acceptable. Two towns in Massachusetts (Cambridge and Somerville) have changed their laws and allowed multi-partnered people to have legal rights and status ..read more

Sex Again 4 Useful Tips to Facilitate Sexual Reconnection After an Affair by Jill Baumgarner LPC Staff Therapist, Enhancing Intimacy Austin You may find that sex after an affair can feel - well, complicated! In my years as a therapist, I’ve noticed that there doesn’t seem to be one specific pattern sexual reconnection follows. You may find that suddenly you and your partner, in the immediate aftermath of an affair, are suddenly - surprisingly?- spending much more time in the bedroom. You may find that you, as the hurt partner, have skirted the topic completely; feeling that sexual reconnectio ..read more