For years, I used to tell prospective partners that my limits are anything anal, kissing and orgasms. I don’t kiss because it’s gross to stick a tongue in someone else’s mouth and just, no thank you. I don’t do anal because a former partner got real rapey with it and now it’s just a nightmare to process. I don’t do orgasms because, well, it is more fun not to do them? Well, that’s not all of it. For a long time, I could only have orgasms if I was being raped, then for a while I could have them but they were shit, now I can have great orgasms from one person but it’s still more fun not to have ..read more

Within the kink sphere, this is a question asked only in whispers, it is a subject held deeply inside the hearts of the many people who worry that going to therapy or seeking help for trauma would ultimately lead to “curing” them of their sexuality, but it’s hard to talk about it out loud, isn’t it? The difficulty is understandable, everything about this seems like such a problematic position. First of all, the belief that therapy cures trauma is a bit misguided in itself, as is the idea that there is a cure. Then there is the implication that the trauma or emotional dysfunction are what cause ..read more

In today’s digital age, like-minded communities have found their place online, bringing people together to explore fascinating desires within the world of feederism. In this article, we’ll take a journey to uncover the intriguing aspects of this unique world, where the desire to gain weight is a shared passion. The World of Feederism “Feederism is all about celebrating ‘feedees’ who are captivated by the idea of making their bodies larger by gaining weight,” says one community member. But it’s important to know that feederism is not a one-size-fits-all experience. It welcomes people of all bod ..read more

I have been itching to meet Ryder ever since I saw her profile, despite being reluctant to meet  anyone during this pandemic. Plus, I felt playing with a limited number of partners would be  essential to developing a kinky relationship. Nevertheless, I visited her profile regularly. She  was irresistible in her pictures. Attractive features, busty, athletic build, tall, and lovely hair.  She was from Rwanda.   Eventually, I gave in to my desires and spontaneously decided to meet her on a Wednesday  evening. I had an inkling this was a bad idea. Usually, I hav ..read more

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Am I or anyone I know facing seggsual abuse in an intimate relationship? Many people are unsure if what they went through can be categorised under seggsual violence/trauma. First of all, let us make it clear: Seggsual violence/trauma is any act of seggsual nature that a person did not consent to. This happens both offline and online and to people of all genders. Examples includes r@pe, child seggsual abuse, child manipulation by an older person of any gender, unwanted kissing and touching, street harassment, forcing to watch pornography, unwelcome online remarks/threats/abuse based on gender o ..read more

You’ll probably know more about my age than I’d want you to once I told you that I have lived most of my life without the internet. It had its perks, in an old school kind of way I guess. But one thing was cruelly lacking: access to information and to communities. For someone like me, it was a terrible thing. My very first pre-pubescent fantasies revolved around sexual control. My first dates forced me to constantly pull myself back to a gentlemanly behavior and a kinder touch, when all I wanted was being rough and directive. I had been brought up in a progressive feminist environment, and who ..read more

Oooh the C word! Consent is not an easy concept to understand or explain. It is individual, experiential, cultural and contextual. And above all, it’s an evolving concept. Like in so many ways, human culture is going through a change in terms of  personal space, individualism, age appropriateness and collective responsibility. Decades ago, our parents and caregivers lived in a so-called “simpler” time where personal space was not considered a right. But simple is not always good. It can be simple because we’re not considering others’ comfort, will and state of mind. We learn our basic cod ..read more

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“How should clients treat seggs workers?” “Thank them and pay them double!” There are many types of seggs work experiences and in this blog we are going to cover a very specific kind: the one-time service, or cruising. So you’re lonely, looking for intimacy, or just in the mood for some casual seggs. You pull up to your regular cruising spot and contact or approach a seggs worker who you feel attracted to. You get together, pay them and go home. Would we consider this as a regular purchase or consumption of services? What kind of communication do you have with them?  It’s hard to equate s ..read more