Longing for a more intimate sex life with your husband? Looking for truth and healing in the area of Sexuality? Want to get more comfortable talking about sex with your kids? Wondering how to open up the conversation of sex in your church? Join me for a 6 week Awaken Love class for Wives For wives around the world Join me over zoom on Tuesday evenings from 6:30 – 8:00 pm central starting Oct 10. Cost is just $20, plus you will need a copy of Awaken Love. Limited to just 12 women. Email me at ruth.awakenlove@gmail.com today to find out more information and sign up. Or For wives in Minnesota ..read more

Listen to the Awaken Love podcast  where Christian wives are reclaiming sex. Hear stories of the growth and healing that women have experienced in the area of sexuality and listen to Ruth’s teaching. You can find Awaken Love on Apple, Stitcher, Spotify, my website or any of your favorite listening platforms. Share the Awaken Love podcast with all your friends and give it a review to help other people find it. We want to help Christian women reclaim sexuality. Hot Topics Workshop Feb 7th for Couples!!! Did you know that some women can orgasm from just touching their belly b ..read more

In class last year, I witnessed what I would call a miracle. I’ve watched profound transformation during Awaken Love classes before, so I don’t know that I felt surprised. But when Lisa shared her God story, it felt awe inspiring, bigger than life, a miracle that only God can orchestrate. You see in the world that we live, we like to think that we control more than we do. But when I witness miracles, it reminds me of how small I am and who is really in control. The situation that felt hopeless, and chaotic – in a moment – it changed , a miracle happened, and only God can do that. Lisa Joins Aw ..read more

The mission of Awaken Love is to encourage men and women to claim God’s design for sex and equip them to share the truth with others. It is not your typical mission, even in the area of married sexuality. I don’t just feel called to improve marriages. I want to equip Christians to talk about sex so that they impact the world around them.  When we learn to talk about sex with other Christians, we change the culture of sex in the church. Personal transformation not only benefits the individual but ripples to impact kids, spouse, families, friends and others. And the best way to equip Christ ..read more

Humans are meaning makers. Unlike animals that simply go through life eating, reproducing and doing what they must to survive, people constantly interpret life. We map our world to measure our worth and the validity of our actions. Am I enough? Does he want me? Did I fail again? Will this get me what I want? Everything has a meaning, and how we interpret the meanings have an enormous impact on our self and our openness, especially in the high stakes game of love and sex. Meanings Outside of Marriage Outside the confines of marriage, sex can feel freer because of the meanings we can offer ourse ..read more

Choice. A powerful word, an empowering concept. It has helped me reframe everything that I do and helped me to better own my life. Rather than feeling like a victim of my circumstance or the people around me, I choose what I do, how I react and what I believe. I am no longer dependent on others for my happiness, worth, or even desirability.  I make the choices that influence what I believe about myself. But choice is not just about how I act, it is what must be granted to feel chosen. If I want to feel desired, than I must let the other choose. I cannot make that happen. But when I become ..read more

I have high standards.  I focus, work hard, and I make things happen. But even when things go well, I never feel satisfied. I mean, I’ve spent 10 years teaching Awaken Love to over 1000 women and still felt like a failure. That doesn’t really make sense, but it’s true. I recently discovered through counseling that my harsh inner critic constantly beats me down. It never allowed me to feel the satisfaction that comes when you put your all into something, and let God take care of the rest. I am learning to quiet my inner critic and feel satisfied and it feels so good. Inner Critic When I st ..read more

It is kind of funny to admit, but when I started counseling, I thought to myself, “I am going to dive in for 6, maybe 8 weeks, and then I will be good to go.” Not only would I be a better me, but I would show my husband just how mature I am. Internally I still hoped my husband would admit his own issues and seek counseling with me. Then the “real” problems could get fixed. Even though I knew that I needed to work on myself, I still couldn’t let go of thinking that if he changed our problems would disappear. 6 months later, I am so glad that I went to counseling on my own. I have learned so man ..read more

Last week I taught my first in-person Awaken Love class in more than 2 years and all I can say is, “God is moving!” We met on my back porch, where I started teaching classes exactly 10 years ago. Twelve women from all walks of life – young and not so young, newly married, divorced and remarried, and celebrating 34 years. All with the purpose of understanding more about God’s Design for sex in their marriage and eager to reclaim Sex as God’s Domain. Who We Are As I welcomed the women to class, I took time to remind them of the realities that we live in today. Among us were women that dreaded se ..read more

Last Saturday morning at 6:00 AM I woke to teach Awaken Love. Whoah!! That’s a little early to talk about sex, isn’t it??!! Not if the women live in Kenya, where the time was 3 pm in the afternoon. Lily started leading the Awaken Love class in Kenya 5 weeks ago and she had asked if I would zoom in for one of their sessions .  In the class were 8 women – some friends of Lilies, others new acquaintances – all on a mission to learn about sex and create more intimate marriages. Lily found me last June when she read a review of my book  Awaken Love on Gary Thomas’ website. She runs an onl ..read more