We had a wonderful Easter that year. Our family came for a lovely meal. We played games and enjoyed seeing and feeling Ellison's kicking and movements inside the tummy of my wife. We laughed, we joked, and we were so so happy. The next day was the final scan and check before inducing. Mt wife and I are both tall so Ellie had sprouted and there wasn't a lot of room in there so we had agreed to induce a week prior to the due date. We had already experienced two miscarriages so we were cautious already. Each time we had got past the number of weeks we prior had experienced loss, we were nervous ..read more

I’m 25 and my partner and I have been trying for some time now for our first child but unfortunately I recently had a miscarriage just as we were preparing to announce at Christmas. It has been extremely hard to come to terms with as I’m sure you guys will know. Not many things have helped, especially not our parents reiterating regularly that ’at least we know we can conceive’. But things are getting better and I am starting to come to terms with it more now. One concept that I have found particularly soothing is the idea that you keep some of the babies DNA within you even after loss which I ..read more

My first child died a few weeks after his birth. I developed severe preeclampsia and my kidneys were failing. They had to deliver him by c-section at 32 weeks. For one week, he did well in the NICU. We got to hold him and give him a bath. We started to believe he would come home and we imagined a life together. Then he developed an infection and the doctors couldn't figure it out. He died two weeks later as we held him in our arms. Its been almost 16 years now. We have two other children, and we talk about our first son often. They know about their brother. The first four years were brutal and ..read more

Back in 2000, my partner was pregnant. We hadn't told anyone because the tradition is to wait until 3 months, she suffered a miscarriage the morning of 3 months so it was something we kept just between us. I didn't grieve properly, I thought my role was to be strong for her to lean on. Years later she told me that she interpreted my reaction as not caring. In private I did things like pretend there was a baby that was asleep in another room, at toddler age I imagined him stumbling out of his room and giving me hug, speaking age he would tell me he loved me. I stopped around school age, making ..read more

In April 2022 I discovered I was going to be a dad. Words cannot begin to express the joy I felt expecting my first child. I tragically lost that child at about 5 months, before she was born. It was a heart wrenching loss and a grueling road to recovery.  I wrote a book which I just released on Amazon October 18,2023 detailing my path, the father's perspective on the loss of an unborn child: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CLFBQ8YL It was my hope that this book would help someone else overcome the devastation I went through losing my baby girl. Even today the sound of my baby's heartbeat ..read more

I created a chat room for general use. Please PM me if interested for the link - I won't post here because the spamming losers we occasionally have to deal with will probably log into it. This is totally free and no registration/etc required. I would only ask that when people log in, they use the same user name as they use here. But for anyone who thinks "oh great, I'll log on here any time and there will be people chatting!" Sorry, no...there's about a 99% chance that logging on randomly will mean no one is there. BUT...if you want to say "I'll be there at X time on X day," hopefully people w ..read more

I lost my son and nearly lost my wife 9 months ago. She was only 25 weeks pregnant and had many complications despite being a very healthy person. Our son did not survive. My wife recovered and we are just trying our best to process everything.   Personally, my grief comes in waves. I usually grieve on my own as I feel I need to be strong for my wife. I have been coping with the loss of my son by overworking and getting my mind off of that experience, but when the waves settle, I keep reliving it. It does not help that I am also a doctor and work in the same hospital that my son died at ..read more

My first and at this point only child was born July 29, 2023 via emergency C-section after 36 hours of labor. Due to negligence that occurred my son was born not breathing. He wasn’t still born but he was unable to breathe on his own. The very first time I saw my boy, the Dr.’s and nurses were doing chest compressions.  I after several tests, MRI’s etc. It was obvious that my boy had no brain activity, the utmost hardest decision of life was made and his care was terminated. My baby lived for 52 hours off all machines before taking his last breath in my arms on August 05, 2023 at one week ..read more

i unexpectedly got pregnant last month from a fwb situation we weren’t together but i’ve always wanted kids so i was willing to work things out. two weeks ago my doctor told me that the baby hasn’t grown and i was most likely having a miscarriage and i’ve been completely devastated ever since. my baby’s father came over to comfort me but the day after that he blocked me on everything… i was already heartbroken from losing my baby but that really put me over the top. now i’m struggling with fear of ever getting pregnant again but also fearing that i won’t. i’m scared this is going to be somethi ..read more

My son was stillborn the day before his due date. I went for my last check up and as they were doing the ultrasound they could not find his heartbeat. I instantly knew at that moment before they even told me that he was gone. I did my best to hold it together. I called my mom and broke down crying.  She came to get me to take me to the hospital. We sat for a few hours as they got everything ready for me to deliver him. I knew he was gone and I had to push him but all I kept thinking about was my mom and how I felt like I failed   I tried so hard to deal with contractions and the ..read more