Terry (Mr Perfect Founder): "I wanted to make clear that Greg sent this to me purely as a reflection for himself on 5 years since his first Mr Perfect BBQ. It was so powerful to me when I read it, I could not help but share with the world (with his reluctant permission of course!). Greg is one of my very few personal heroes and men I look up to, and I look forward to many more years of his huge influence on Mr Perfect".   *****   Knowing it was around this time of year, I looked back through a few old emails recently and found the date I was looking for. It was June 10th 2018, c ..read more

Hot off the announcement last week that Mr Perfect has a new Chair, we are ecstatic to formally announce that we have also appointed a new CEO. The charity has taken the opportunity to capitalise on the foundations built over the past 7+ years, coupled with a bold move to invest our resources in a leader to take us to new heights and reach more men than ever. Please join us in giving a huge welcome to John Mooney.   Experience and Skills John is an accomplished leader with 25 years of lived commercial experience gained across all levels of the private, public and corporate sectors. J ..read more

While it is always about quality over quantity at Mr Perfect, some of our bigger community BBQs have attracted solid numbers of local community members. However, we suspect that the vibe might be a little more raucous at these huge events. Here is a rundown of the Top 5 Biggest BBQs in the World on the annual calendar (you guessed it, the US wins hands down):   The Big Apple Barbecue Block Party in New York City is one of the biggest barbecues in the world, with over 100,000 attendees annually. This two-day event features some of the best pitmasters from across the country, serving ..read more

  Every few months a podcast hits so hard with me that I have to stop, rewind, listen again, and make notes. This conversation between Cole Sprouse of Riverwood fame, and Steven Bartlett of The Diary Of A CEO, met my internal criteria. With our Mr Perfect community in mind, here is a selection of the helpful stuff:   The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett E229: Cole Sprouse YouTube version Podcast / Audio version   Mental Health: Anxiety, Connection, Therapy “I think gratefulness and ungratefulness can exist simultaneously”. “...even through pain we trade trauma for wisdom ..read more

I'm not a huge Netflix fan. Maybe a handful of times a year I will watch a short series or documentary (no fiction allowed, of course, it has to be "real life"). So when I saw Sally Metelerkamp's tweet thread summarising the documentary Stutz, with its unique vibe and priceless takeaways, I had to ask her if it was okay to post her wisdom as a blog. I figured this particular approach to therapy and its message may help someone in our community. Sal kindly agreed (and the reflections were so good, I ended up watching it and was glad I did). Sally is the Founder and CEO of Lived, a cau ..read more

A theme that comes up regularly on our social media channels or sometimes internally in the form of comments and questions is are women "allowed" to attend our BBQs? The short answer is Mr Perfect BBQs are intended for, and proven to have benefits for, men. The longer answer is the following. I personally, and the community as a whole, appreciate the priceless support women provide us as well as encouraging and supporting initiatives like Mr Perfect. I've voiced it consistently; on podcasts, blogs, interviews and thanked the very individual humans that have been so generous to us (and con ..read more

Terry Cornick is a Sydney-based father of three young boys, working in the healthcare industry. He also battles depression, anxiety and PTSD. After escaping the UK, his life in Australia on the surface looked ideal, so much so that his best mate called him “Mr Perfect” regularly. But like many men, our founder realised he was not Mr Perfect. After a lifetime of mental challenges, he finally navigated a path to tackle them and found there was something missing in the support he accessed, with a desire that no man be left behind.   WHY DID HE DO IT?   ? Blog therapy As a writer at ..read more

WHAT IS IT? A community organisation connecting men across Australia over a relaxed free BBQ to chat about all things life. But we are more than a BBQ. Online we provide quality resources for the good of men's mental health.   WHY DO IT? ? Conversation (and listening) always helps. Weather, work, footy, family challenges and life changes. ? Getting outside in the sunshine is healthy. An antidote to the COVID-age isolation, meeting a welcoming bunch of guys. ? Meeting new mates. Our community has met outside of the BBQ, to cycle, have coffee and form a support network.     WHERE ..read more

Although not the only tool in my toolbox, my Psychologist has been a key one in managing the daily dance between depression and anxiety. Here are 5 pieces of wisdom they impart regularly that I have found helpful:   (1) Ease the consumption Even when it's obvious, my ability to take action for the good of my mental health is often hampered by my tendency to over-consume. Media, advice, knowledge, often this leads to an endless exhausting quest for more anxiety, when often the answer can be the same and can be simple. Concentrate on catching yourself to try and halt this cycle and truly di ..read more

In the challenging times we live in, stress has reached pandemic proportions in and of itself. These past couple of years have brought a worldwide rise in stress levels, as well as mental health issues. But an issue that is hardly being talked about, is how the rise in stress levels affects our sex lives and romantic relationships.   The ‘Fight or Flight ’Response – The Reason Stress and Sex Don’t go Well Together Our early ancestors were very good at doing three things: evading predators, eating, and making babies. However, you would rarely catch them doing more than one of these activit ..read more