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  Welcome back to chapter 3 of ‘team work makes the dream work’. In the previous chapter, we looked at some of the skills Sarah and Hannah used in their lives to help them manage their chronic relationship issues. Thus far, we have addressed issues that are chronic but of moderate intensity. In this chapter, we will look at the intensity of some marital issues as well as the common themes we find in the stories of the couples that request assistance. SubhanAllah, if we are left to our own logic and reasoning, we will definitely falter and we therefore need a compass to direct us. Alhamdul ..read more

  Nasihah (Advice): The Best of Men   Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn Abbas Radiyallahu anhuma reported that Rasulullah Sallahu Alaihi Wa sallam said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Sunan Tirmidhi) _____________________________________   Question and Answer:   If a husband and wife are separated, is it the duty of the husband to continue maintaining his wife?   A husband remains financially responsible for his wife throughout their marriage. If the husband and wife separate, they still remain married. However ..read more

In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most Merciful It is the greatest mercy of Allah سبحانه وتعالى, the creator of all that He has blessed us with Islaam as a way of life. Obedience in Islaam does not simply mean praying to Allah but will also entail us ensuring that we conduct our day to day as prescribed by our Beloved Prophet, Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. Our Islaamic culture is rich, colourful and also virtuous. We need to draw upon it for the enrichment of our lives. The fortunate ones are those who conduct their lives according to Islaamic traditions, hence they reap ..read more

  Nasihah (Advice): Complete obedience to Allah Ta’ala   Sayyiduna Ali Radhiyallahu Anhu reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “There is no obedience to anyone if it is disobedience to Allah. Verily, obedience is only in good conduct.” [Sahih Bukhari] ________________________________________________   Question and Answer:   I would like to grow a beard, however, my spouse does not find it attractive. I am unsure as to how to go about it as I would like to grow a beard, however, I don’t want to burden my marriage.   It is compulsory (Waaji ..read more

Question:   I wanted to find out if a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian/jewish woman?   Answer:   In our current climate, marrying a christian/jewish woman is considered to be impermissible and sinful. The reason why such a marriage is considered to be sinful and impermissible is because of the prevalent harm to the husband’s Imaan and that of any children born of such a marriage. In many cases, the husband’s Imaan is challenged by the beliefs of the wife especially when celebrating christian/jewish festivals like Easter and Christmas. Children born from such a marriage ..read more

Ibnul Jowzi (rahimahullah) narrates that a pious person once mentioned: I once entered Egypt where I found a blacksmith who would extract iron from his furnace using nothing but his bare hands! He would then place the iron on his anvil and turn it with his hands without apparently experiencing any pain whatsoever. On witnessing this extraordinary spectacle, I thought to myself, “This must most definitely be a very pious man if the fire does not harm him!” With this in mind, I drew close to him and greeted him with salaam to which he replied. I thereafter addressed him in the following words ..read more

A beautiful parable in the hadeeth compares a good friend with a perfume seller and a bad friend with a blacksmith. The least benefit one will acquire in the company of a perfume seller is that one will certainly get the beautiful scent of perfume, which will freshen the mind and heart. Likewise, a good friend will always be a means of benefit. Merely being in his company will incline the heart towards good. On the contrary the least harm in the company of a blacksmith is that one will breathe the toxic smoke that will be all around his environment. Likewise, the company of a bad friend ..read more

  “Love is marriage, children and dealing with problems. Not making out and stupid status updates. Love comes later.” We posted this recently and asked people to share with us their reflections on love. What readers did not know was that these are the words of a 17 year old boy. His thoughts about his peers’ revelations of love on social media. Shakespeare wrote, “How do I love thee, let me count the ways.” He then proceeded to describe the extent of his love. Today, love’s very own prose, isn’t the way we articulate this feeling of affection. Love is expressed in the number of selfies ..read more

“Team work makes the dream work” Part 1   Disclaimer: The stories in our articles are not factual. Their themes however, are based on real life challenges. In the previous chapter, we looked at Sarah’s story regarding chronic difference of opinion and how this impacted negatively on the relationship. We then described that the couple is on one team and the enemy is shaytaan. The article further expressed that the title of Queen of the home entitles a woman to a life of elegance, decorum and integrity. It was promised that the skills will be shared in this chapter…so here we go. One wou ..read more