By Dr. Pavini Moray, Founder of Wellcelium Today I want to introduce you to three common intimacy profiles, based on attachment style. Does one of these sound like someone you know? I share these in service of you understanding more about yourself in relationship. Disclosure: These are composite stories and common traits from hundreds of clients I’ve worked with in private practice. Intimacy Profile #1: Avoidant Mina longs for a loving long term relationship. However, every time she gets near a committed partnership, she finds some reason to end the relationship. For a long time, she’s t ..read more

When most people think about relationships, they think about relationships with other humans. What about some of the other primary relationships you have during your life? ~The relating you do with the land you dwell on. ~Your very intimate relationship with the food that nourishes your body. ~Money. Today, I’m inviting you to consider money as a primary relationship in your life. And because we are a relationship school, teaching the skills for graceful relating, it’s something we gotta talk about. YOU + MONEY When you read, “Money is a primary relationship in my life,” what happens in yo ..read more

By Dr. Pavini Moray, Founder of Wellcelium Yes, yes, we know. Conflict is natural and healthy in relationship. But knowing conflict is normal doesn’t mean that it becomes easier, amirite? Why are the holidays such a time of conflict and stress, when they are supposed to be about love and celebration? One word: expectation. You probably have a way you think a holiday is “supposed” to feel or be. This may be a picture of joy, but it also might be an unconscious allegiance to strife. If holiday seasons in your past have been full of challenges, then you are going to believe that’s how it’s ..read more

By Dr. Pavini Moray, Founder of Wellcelium As a sex therapist, I have the honor of hearing what’s really happening in many people’s private sex lives. I love it! And I can tell you honestly, that especially for partners who have been together for several years, desire and sexual frequency often get really complicated! One of you wants more sex than the other. One of you feels obligated. One of you doesn’t feel like you can say what you really need or want. You want sex to just be easy, organic and natural. But instead, sex becomes a hot-spot , and not in a good way! – Dr. Pavini Mor ..read more

You need to have needs! Humans always have needs. If you think you don’t have needs, you may not be in touch with identifying them, but they are still there. Imagine your met needs as rocket boosters that propel you forward in your life. Now imagine your unmet needs as little computer programs that are running the background, drawing power and slowing down your rocket-booster speed. Managing day to day with unmet needs can be a real challenge. Having needs in a relationship is a good thing. It doesn’t automatically make you “needy.” It actually means that you’re tuned in to your emotions and ..read more

By Dr. Pavini Moray, Founder of Wellcelium Desire (a working definition): The foundational current of energy in the body from which all acts of will and creation initiate. Desire Creates Life Why is it necessary to struggle to understand desire, to know its workings, to attempt to re-ignite it?  Let’s begin by taking a moment to imagine what life would be like without Desire. And I’m not talking only about sexual desire. The sexuo-creative-life-force-Chi-prana-hunger-yearning is what I’m naming. It’s the flow of energy that moves through the body, inspiring action and growth. Withou ..read more

By Dr. Pavini Moray, Founder of Wellcelium How do you feel when talking with partners and loved ones about money? When couples who come to me struggling with sex, I ask this question: What is the connection between money and sex for you? And then there is this moment of loud silence. They ponder how their struggles with sex and their struggles with money might possibly be connected. How is it for you to hear that about half of American couples fight about money? I worked with a couple (names changed) Dan and Bry a few years ago. They came to couple’s therapy to work on their sex life, wh ..read more

You’ve learned so many things in your lifetime so far! Countless amounts of information through the way you were raised as a child, your lived experience, formal education, social education, your work, the internet superhighway, and so on. Despite all of the information we’ve amassed, most of us haven’t learned what relationship repair is, why it’s important, and the skills needed to reconcile our differences when things get tough. Everyone finds themselves in conflict at one point or another, and I’ll bet you have, too. Take a moment to reflect on your own experiences: How are you with confl ..read more

By Jaxson Benjamin What is Self-Care? “Caring for myself is not an act of self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” —Audre Lorde, 1988 The term self-care has become increasingly trendy in recent years. We receive many messages about what it means and how to practice it. Self-care can mean different things to different people! To find what serves you, let’s start with the origin of the concept. The history of self-care began with a medical term used by doctors in the 1960s when referring to prescribed activities for patients around “healthy habits ..read more

By DeviantSuccubus Relationship stress can make life difficult. Instead of happy moments and pleasurable intimacy, you end up being on edge around the people you want to feel most relaxed with. What got you there in the first place? Relationship stress can be caused by conflict, lack of communication, weak listening skills, jealousy, problems in everyday life, issues with family, work or money. You might feel neglected and your emotional and sexual needs aren’t met. It is a place that you rather don’t want to stay in for too long. Is Relationship Stress Common? You are not alone. Relationship ..read more