The post 9 Things to Know about the Asexuality Spectrum appeared first on Passion by Kait. We tend to think of sexual orientation as a spectrum from gay to straight. Many people are familiar with the Kinsey Scale, for example. While these perspectives have been liberating to many, another spectrum exists entirely: the asexuality—or ace—spectrum. People on the asexuality spectrum experience little to no sexual attraction and/or desire. In honor of ACE Week (October 25-31), an international campaign dedicated to raising awareness and expanding education of asexuality, here ar ..read more

The post How to Squirt appeared first on Passion by Kait. ANONYMOUS ASKS: How the heck do I squirt? Anonymous: One of my favorite takeaways from Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are is the idea of “all the same parts, organized differently.” Basically, regardless of your biological sex and tingly bits, every body has all the same parts organized in different ways. Those different ways, in turn, have a cascade effect, impacting the hormones produced, whether we sit or stand while we pee, and much more.  We need to ground any conversation about squirting in this understanding. After ..read more

The post Winter Sex Ideas appeared first on Passion by Kait. It’s that time of year where winter feels like it just won’t end. The days are noticeably longer, but still more dark than light. Having to go outside still requires layering on multiple pieces of outerwear, and really all you want to do is stay inside and cuddle your beau(s). Even if it’s been a mild winter, the slower pace that comes after the post-holiday frenzy invites in more time for hibernating and deepening your connection. In that spirit, here are 8 cozy winter sex ideas to steam up your sex life—and your windows. 7 Win ..read more

The post 12 Sensual Self-Care Practices that Don’t Cost a Thing appeared first on Passion by Kait. This article on free sensual self care practices originally appeared on Blood + Milk. Self-care is more than bubble baths and face masks. Though we love those options, self-care is also a way to reckon with and heal ourselves and our history.  Body-based forms of healing have a long and rich history in every culture Unfortunately, patriarchal, ableist, white norms placed intellect and the mind above the wisdom of the body. (For more on the intentional silencing of traditional and body-based ..read more

The post 7 Reasons to Prioritize Your Pleasure appeared first on Passion by Kait. This article on why experiencing pleasure is revolutionary originally appeared on Blood + Milk. “Pleasure might be too scary of a sell,” the marketing consultant told me. We were seeing an influx of curiosity around menstruation, reproductive health and justice, and even sex. But pleasure? That was a no-no. “Why does pleasure matter to you?” the PR consultant asked.  It’s a human right. It is transgressive. It puts a stake in the ground and says “I matter.” Experiencing pleasure is revolutionary This is ..read more

The post Distracted? 15 Ways to Stay Present During Sex appeared first on Passion by Kait. This article on staying present during sex originally appeared on Blood + Milk. By now we all know that the last two years have put us through the ringer. Even if you’re one of the lucky ones whose career and relationships are thriving, for whom the pandemic was the main thing that went wrong—it has touched every part of everyone’s life. You might have noticed some side effects from this ongoing stressor—and, no, we don’t mean anything about your beautiful body. Things like struggling with sleep. Mo ..read more

The post The 2021 PbK Sexy Holiday Gift Guide (Mostly) under $100 appeared first on Passion by Kait. Holiday season is the perfect time to shop for fun, sexy gifts. To bring you more pleasure, connection, and intimacy this holiday season, we’ve put together a holiday gift guide featuring PbK Founder, Kait Scalisi’s favorite pleasure products of 2021 including toys, classes, workshops, books, and more under $100 (with 1 exception)! When you shop through PbK, the impact of your purchase goes further. You support our two-person team, the small brands with whom we partner, and the Black-led orgs t ..read more

The post Read This If You’re Happy Not To Do Holiday Gatherings This Year appeared first on Passion by Kait. This article on what to do if you need an out for holiday season originally appeared on Blood + Milk. <content warning: mention of slut shaming, COVID-19, ableism, fatphobia, dieting violence against Indigenous people and LGBTQIA+ folx> I was in my early teens when my uncle called me a slut at Thanksgiving dinner. He blamed it on my very in (at that time) blue eyeshadow. I’m sure you and I can agree that wasn’t the cause.  Around this time last year, the phrase, “The winter i ..read more

The post Why Sex and Desire in Movies are Unrealistic—and How to Have More of Both appeared first on Passion by Kait. This article on why sex and desire in movies is unrealistic originally appeared on Blood + Milk. Scene 1: Music swells. The camera pans around in a circle. And, shortly after our main characters’ lips (finally!) meet, the scene fades to black. The “closed door” sex scene is a classic part of any rom-com and, increasingly other movies. Some are more or less explicit but all have one thing in common: They’re effortless. Two people falling into each other’s arms. The rest of the w ..read more

The post Want Better Sex? Slow the Eff Down & Savor Foreplay appeared first on Passion by Kait. As I stepped onto the elevator, a male voice asked, “Do you have a puppy in that bag?!” “No” I replied, “Sex toys. I just taught a foreplay workshop for a bachelorette party!” His response: “Foreplay – what’s that?” He and his wife started laughing, and I joined in. It was a knee jerk response (thanks internalized patriarchy). By the time I got home, though, I was thoroughly enraged. Foreplay isn’t just the turn on before you get it on – it’s vital for the safest, most pleasurable ..read more