Dr. Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT Most people seem to think about love as a feeling. It’s that warm butterfly sensation you get when you’re around a particular person. And certainly, that is part of romantic love. But actual love is not so one-dimensional. Love is how we respond to others, how we feel their emotions with them, how we support them, how we behave toward them and around them. Admittedly, the feeling of romantic love is incredibly important because it’s the starter button for lasting intimate connection. But it’s hardly what long-term romantic love looks like. Lasting romantic intimacy ..read more

The 12 Steps Don’t Work for Me. I Just Don’t Fit In. In this episode of Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction, Dr. Rob and Tami discuss what an addict can do if the 12-step program just isn’t for them. Should they stop going? Should they keep white-knuckling it? Tami offers resources for those who feel very out of place at these particular meetings. When it comes to recovery, getting the help you need and doing so correctly is the most important step in the process. The post The 12 Steps Don’t Work for Me. I Just Don’t Fit In. appeared first on Sex and Relationship Healing. The post The 12 Steps D ..read more

Dr. David Fawcett At Seeking Integrity: Los Angeles we treat two primary disorders: 1) Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder, and 2) Co-Occurring Drug Use and Sexual Behavior. Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD) encompasses what is commonly referred to as sex addiction, along with porn addiction and love/relationship addiction. There are a variety of other terms used to describe CSBD, but generally we’re talking about the same thing. Co-Occurring Drug Use and Sexual Behavior is less easily defined and understood. To help with this, I have created a list of the most common variants, with b ..read more

What Are the Triggers of a Midlife Addiction? In this episode of Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction, Dr. Rob and Tami discuss why someone would “suddenly” become an addict in their mid-40s. The post What Are the Triggers of a Midlife Addiction? appeared first on Sex and Relationship Healing. The post What Are the Triggers of a Midlife Addiction? appeared first on Seeking Integrity ..read more

Am I Ready to Date Again as a Sex Addict? In this episode of Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction, Dr. Rob and Tami dive into when it makes sense for someone to date again after being sober and in recovery from sex, love, or porn addiction. This can be tricky for some professionals to determine, but Dr. Rob and Tami walk through some of the questions you need to ask yourself before you take that next step in recovery. Remember, the goal isn’t to have sex in the dating process, it’s to get to know that person. The post Am I Ready to Date Again as a Sex Addict? appeared first on Sex and Relationshi ..read more

Dr. Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT Last week, we discussed the concept of addiction as an intimacy disorder, noting that addicts of all types heal best in a community of recovery. This week, we examine that concept further, starting with one of the all-time great illustrations of it – Canadian researcher Bruce Alexander’s “Rat Park” experiments that took place in the late 1970s. Before Alexander’s research, it was generally thought that pleasure was the primary driver of addiction. Take an addictive drug or engage in an addictive behavior, feel pleasure, and then want to feel that pleasure again and ..read more

He Blames Me for All of His Affairs. What??? In this episode of Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction, Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse whose sex addict husband isn’t doing the work. He says that he won’t act out anymore because she’s “fixed” after all the therapy she’s doing. What kind of logic is this? The post He Blames Me for All of His Affairs. What??? appeared first on Sex and Relationship Healing. The post He Blames Me for All of His Affairs. What??? appeared first on Seeking Integrity ..read more

Dr. Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT If addicts could heal from addiction without help, they would. But they can’t. That’s the definition of addiction, right? You’re compulsive with a substance or a behavior and you can’t stop, no matter how hard you try, no matter how bad the consequences. You’re using when you don’t want to, when you’ve promised yourself and others you wouldn’t, when it’s ruining your life. And then you’re using some more. That’s addiction. And the only way to stop it is to accept outside assistance – treatment, therapy, 12-step meetings, support groups, etc. Interestingly, addicts d ..read more

My 9-Year-Old Daughter Found Out About His Affairs and Now She’s Self-Harming In this episode of Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction, Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a distraught mother who has no idea how to work through her daughter’s feelings and emotions about her father’s sexual betrayal. Despite the young daughter going to a therapist, the mother is receiving news from him that she should be 100% honest with her daughter about what’s happening in the household. Dr. Rob weighs in on how this isn’t healthy or good advice, and how to best approach this instead. The post My 9-Year-Old ..read more

Buttrfly Effect Podcast: Dr. Rob on Prodependence Dr. Rob Weiss recently appeared as a guest on the Buttrfly Effect Podcast, hosted by Gail Ferguson Jones. This podcast presents stories of recovery from enmeshment and enabling for individuals and families living with the dysfunction addiction. In this episode, Dr. Rob and Gail discuss Prodependence and how this new approach can help loved ones of addicts. Click to Listen The post Buttrfly Effect Podcast: Dr. Rob on Prodependence appeared first on Sex and Relationship Healing. The post Buttrfly Effect Podcast: Dr. Rob on Prodependence appeared ..read more