When you decide enough is enough - the first step isn't the last
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
3d ago
The victim of abusive behavior will eventually reach their breaking point. In that moment, they finally feel like they can take their life back. But they may still not be out of the woods yet during the transition from victim to empowered.  ..read more
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What change really looks like when the emotional abuser heals
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
1M ago
The healed former emotional abuser looks a lot different than the person they used to be. If you've ever accepted a hurtful person back into your life after they said they've changed but notice after a short while that their old behaviors are creeping back in, you might have missed an important clue that they haven't changed at all.  ..read more
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Feeling discarded when they leave the relationship
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
2M ago
Why does it seem so easy for some people to leave a relationship, get into another one, and act as if the one they were in didn't mean anything? If you've felt discarded and can't stop thinking about what you did wrong, this episode is a good reminder of everything you were doing right.  ..read more
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When the emotional abuser reaches back out after they've healed and changed
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
2M ago
When the emotional abuser apologizes and tries to make amends with their ex-partner after they've done a lot of personal growth and development, should they expect a response from their ex? Is that expecting too much? Or is it time for all to move on and start anew ..read more
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Time with yourself is not only necessary, its required
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
3M ago
You give, you adapt, and you change who you are almost to your very core... to what end? When you are overly compassion to others, you might actually be taking away from yourself. This is as harmful to your mind as a lack of sleep is to your body.  ..read more
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Emotionally abusive behavior is also physically painful
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
4M ago
Victims of emotional abuse can experience physical pain from all the trauma, potentially leading to increased tolerance and resilience of harm. They can gradually lose their identity due to the abuser’s actions, becoming a shell of their former selves.  ..read more
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The inner conflict of tough decisions
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
4M ago
What drives the important decisions in your life, fear or desire? In this episode I talk about a person's fear of visiting his father because of family that doesn't want him there. I also talk about how to start trusting again after someone betrays you... is there a path to wholeness after such an event?  ..read more
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When the good you do for them leads nowhere
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
4M ago
Some emotionally abusive people don't change, no matter how much the victim of their hurtful behavior changes for them. Is there ever a point where they will be the person you want them to be? Or does anything you do really matter at all?  ..read more
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A clever manipulation tactic that makes you believe you are the problem
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
4M ago
There's a clever manipulation that can happen in some emotionally abusive relationships. It starts with superficial kindness and vague promises and leads to blameshifting and avoiding true accountability. This very subtle form of gaslighting will drive you crazy. I'll share with you how to spot it.  ..read more
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When you think you're strong enough to get back into the difficult relationship
Love and Abuse
by Paul Colaianni
5M ago
When you reach your breaking point with someone, you might make the decision to leave. During that time, you can regain your confidence and feel your power again. You might even decide to give the relationship a second chance, knowing that if you see any warning signs, you can address them right away.  That is until you are once again coerced into staying in a situation that seems destined to go down the exact same path as before. Now what?   ..read more
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