Let's Just Face It
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If you've been struggling in your relationship, there could be more to it than meets the eye. I'm your host Rakel Colina and for years I was in a very toxic relationship, which I didn't recognize as abusive until the day I left. I am here to help you take a look and recognize their abusive patterns and behaviors, but this is not just about them. Let's just face it is not only..
Let's Just Face It
1y ago
If an abusive relationship was always abusive, we would all run away. These relationships run in what is called the abuse cycle, which means there are good times & bad. During these bad times, they will get caught doing things they are not supposed to and they will promise you they will never do it again. If they hurt you physically, they'll always promise they will never do it again. The problem with this is, it goes back to the cycle. An abuser will always repeat their behavior.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
In this episode, I talk about the phrase "I can't leave him". I have been in conversations with many women who are saying this and here are my thoughts on why it's so harmful to keep saying this.
You should stop saying: "I am stuck", "I can't leave" and "I'll never be able to leave". These are meant to keep you in the cycle that you are now and are ideas that someone else has put in your mind.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
When a narcissist tells you "it's a joke", it's not a joke. The fact these words were added after what they just said only means they saw your reaction to what they said. This is a very sensitive topic and I talk about what it means and why they do this in this episode.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
In this podcast episode, I want to share what I think my secret was to leaving my narcissist. I thought this was the norm long ago as it was something my mom always told me about, but I also know it is not discussed in many homes.
Not only is it a subject that is not widely discussed, but many women are gaslighted into thinking the opposite. It is important that women understand the importance of having and handling their own money.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
How do you leave a narcissist? There is no specific way to leave a narcissist or get out of an abusive relationship, but there are certain things you need to understand and some actions you can take to move in that direction. In this episode, I talk about 6 ways to move you closer to leaving that abusive relationship.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
Our childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to attracting toxic or abusive partners. When you grow up in a home that makes you feel like you're not enough or makes you feel like you can't do any better, you grow accustomed to living like this and this becomes your normal.
Therefore, when you get older, you might encounter relationships where you might get the feeling that you're not deserving any better, which makes you fall into abusive relationships, not recognizing the pattern as a toxic one, but as a familiar one.
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Let's Just Face It
1y ago
In today's episode, I talk about what's going on in the court with Johnny Depp. I am not talking about his defamation trial, but going over what has been brought up during the past couple of weeks.
As you might already know, his ex-wife wrote a piece about the abuse she endured during her relationship with him. During the past few weeks in court, there has been a lot of evidence submitted to prove that he was in fact the victim of domestic violence by her.
I go over a few audios used during his testimony to show what certain acts of domestic abuse sound and might look like for a better underst ..read more
Let's Just Face It
1y ago
You don't need closure. The closure will put you in harm's way, but will never get you what you need. You're not dealing with a person that has a personality disorder and will not function as you. When you seek closure you are searching for reason and explanations that this person cannot give you, but you are putting yourself in a place to be pulled into another cycle of abuse.
You know how hard it was to leave, don't put yourself in that position again. What you need is to understand what you have been through and how it has affected you. You can go to thebreakwayjournal.com and see if the jo ..read more
Let's Just Face It
1y ago
I used to think that mental health referred to as having mental issues. It referred to people that suffered from things like schizophrenia, PTSD, hallucinations, or any personality disorders. Maybe because of the way I was brought up, I never thought of mental health as something that we all have to take care of and something that is normal to think about. I never thought of anything like this until my mental health started to decline, at least the moment that I started to notice.
Being in a toxic environment and an abusive relationship surely qualifies as an event that affects your mental hea ..read more
Let's Just Face It
1y ago
I am staying for the kids. A lot of times we make the wrong decision, stay in a relationship because of our kids. Because we believe that it is better for them to have two parents together. Then just be pushed around from one parent to another parent.
The thing is that that is not always the case. Sometimes we stay for the kids. Because we have no idea of what else to say or what else to do. Some people actually think that because they say they're staying for the kids that are making a good decision.
When you say you're staying for the kids. That actually means three different things, at least ..read more