Why forgive yourself and forgive others When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger and resentment — or embrace forgiveness and move forward. When you forgive someone, you forgive yourself. Bearing a grudge against someone who has hurt you is not just about what they have done to you. It’s about what you have allowed happening to you.  Forgiving yourself is allowing that you didn’t know, didn’t understand, or didn’t act in a way that could have short-circuited the conflict. When you forgive yourself, you allow resentment and hurt to be replaced by healing. You are taki ..read more

“Positivity is not positive when it denies, invalidates, or minimizes authentic human emotions.”  “Optimism is not helpful when it makes people feel shame, guilt, or invalidated for feeling a certain way.”  “Hope is not useful when it does not allow for the natural rise and fall of emotions or when it ignores the gravity of a situation.”  “Stoicism is not brave or courageous when it forces you to stuff down your real, true emotions and be inauthentic and incongruent with what you really feel.”  “Perspective is not supportive when it marginalizes your experience ..read more

        What are the causes, and how can you beat it?  “You can do this-this thing, when your body will cease to produce hormones and your skin, hair, muscles and bones…basically every part of you will notice, go into withdrawals, and stage a coup. Be prepared for this mentally and you’ll own this ‘thing.’”-Lisa Jey Davis, author  The initial quote accurately reflects how many women feel during the menopausal transition and beyond. The underlined statement mirrors my way of approaching this new phase in life. Getting educated about m ..read more

How to survive, heal and thrive after divorce at midlife  “It’s not easy to make life changes, particularly if you are set in your ways. However, life is full of ups, and downs-learning how to handle negative experiences is the key to a healthy outcome. Seldom can an individual successfully navigate the negative experiences alone; we all need help. But it is still up to the individual to decide how they will travel on this journey and write their ‘book of life.’”  “Mourn the loss or celebrate it. Adapt, exist, or regress. Learn more about yourself and your inner strengths  ..read more

     How to reduce stress during this life’s phase  “So many women I’ve talked to see menopause as an ending. But I’ve discovered this is your moment to reinvent yourself after years of focusing on the needs of everyone else. It’s your opportunity to get clear about what matters to you and then to pursue that with all of your energy, time, and talent.” –Oprah Winfrey, TV personality  I approach menopause in a very similar way. I see menopause as the start of a wonderful phase of life as a woman, a phase of opp ..read more

All you Need to Know about the link between Menopause and  Mental Health  “We can come out of this phase of life stronger, wiser, and feeling gratitude for the small things in life. Life circumstances play a part in how we get through this time. It’s possible that your emotional insanity and regulation could go down a notch, but no one can predict that, as all women are different.”-SANE Forums Member  This article will provide essential information about the connection between menopause and mental health issues in women going through this life transition. Why do  ..read more

Going Grey Gracefully  “I think that gray hair illustrates self-confidence and truthfulness-saying to anyone in the room, ‘I am precisely who I say I am; I have lots of experience that would be beneficial to you. Interested? ‘Gray hair also makes us memorable. People I’ve met once can remember me in a crowd because I am often the only woman with hair my color in the room.”-Anne Kreamer  Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you purchase any products through those links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I stand behind all th ..read more

All you need to know about menopausal hair loss  “The menopause is probably the least glamorous topic imaginable, and this is interesting because it is one of the very few topics to which cling some shreds and remnants of taboo. A serious mention of menopause is usually met with uneasy silence; a sheering reference to it is usually met with relieved sniggers. Both the silence and the sniggers are fairly sure indications of taboo.”-Ursula K. Le Guin  Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. Should you purchase a product through those links, I may ..read more

Tips For Smart Eating While Still Enjoying Yourself  “You’ve probably heard this tip before, but it really holds up: Cover your plate with non-starchy veggies and a quarter each with lean protein and higher carb foods. This balance is the perfect compromise because it doesn’t require forgoing your favorite foods.” –Lauren Harris-Pincus  The quote above gives you an idea of how simple could be not to gain weight during the festivities. The goal of this article is to confirm it.  Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. Should you buy any prod ..read more

Self-Sabotaging can ruin your professional and personal life and make you miserable “Your life is ultimately measured by your outcomes. It is not about what you wanted to do or would have done but didn’t have the time. It’s not about why you thought you couldn’t; it’s just whether or not you eventually did. When you’re in a pattern of self-sabotaging behavior, you’re often treating those excuses the same way you would measurable outcomes: You are using them to make yourself feel momentarily satisfied, using them as a replacement for the accomplishment itself.”-Brianna Weist Disclaimer: Th ..read more