For many people, the holidays can bring challenges and stress, and this can be especially true for neurodivergent couples. Let's talk about what neurodiversity is and how it can come into play during the holidays!What is a neurodivergent couple?Neurodiversity. This term describes the idea that it’s normal and acceptable for people to have brains that ..read more

Political differences in relationships have become increasingly potent, even leading to breakups. The intensity of contemporary political climates, combined with social issues and a global pandemic, has fueled polarizing debates. While these discussions might seem daunting, addressing them constructively can fortify your relationship. Let's unravel the complexities of political conversations and how they can strengthen ..read more

Navigating a neurodivergent marriage presents intricate challenges, confounding even the most skilled couples therapists. During a high-level training seminar for therapists some years back, a case was presented involving a husband labeled as self-absorbed, blunt, and resistant to his wife’s perspective. The therapist swiftly diagnosed him with narcissistic personality disorder, but I had a different ..read more

Originally published Dec 8, 2020. Updated Dec 21, 2023How to have a good holiday with a bad marriageThings have not been good between the two of you for a while. And now the holidays are upon you. Surviving the holidays with marital trouble can be daunting. But here are 11 critical tools that might be ..read more

Negative thoughts often intrude upon our minds, becoming a relentless source of distress. Attempts to suppress these thoughts typically backfire, making them more persistent. However, various strategies, as explored by thought suppression expert Daniel Wegner, offer alternatives to alleviate unwanted thoughts. Here are some practical techniques to manage and overcome persistent negativity. In an article for ..read more

Understanding Gottman's Distance and Isolation CascadeIntroductionGottman’s Distance and Isolation Cascade encapsulates the gradual erosion of emotional connection within relationships. Rooted in extensive research by renowned psychologist John Gottman, this concept delineates the subtle yet impactful disconnections that, over time, lead to profound emotional isolation between partners. Understanding this cascade involves recognizing the sequential stages and ..read more

Tim and Carolyn*, both 36, were an attractive, financially successful couple when they met through mutual friends. Carolyn was attracted to Tim's generous and carefree style. He frequently bought her lavish gifts and treated a crowd of friends to drinks and dinner. Carolyn was more modest in her spending. Before the marriage, Tim pressured Carolyn into ..read more

Infidelity is the act of being unfaithful in a committed relationship.The long term psychological effects of infidelity compare to those of many other traumas.In this post we will look at how affairs affect the family, the impact of infidelity on betrayed spouses, and the mental health impact on children of infidelity.While it might seem like ..read more

Negative effects of verbal abuseAn old proverb says, "Sticks and stones will break your bones, but names will never hurt you." Nothing could be further from the truth. If you are experiencing verbal abuse, your relationship might have started out very differently. You may have been told how special you are, how deeply they care for ..read more

The frequency of sexual activity in marriage varies a lot from couple to couple. There is no definitive answer to when married couples stop having sex as individual circumstances, preferences, and relationship dynamics influence it. But if you have a sexless relationship and want to enjoy sex and sexual frequency again, there is help. Read on ..read more