“Good enough is good enough. Perfect will make you a big fat mess every time.” ― Rebecca Wells   Do you feel a lot of pressure to achieve “perfection”? Perhaps you feel that you must look a certain way, that you must do things right so that nobody else judges you, that you need to have a spotless home, or that you should never fail or make a mistake? There can be a lot of pressure to achieve “perfection” in our society.  Yet perfectionism is often something that can drive you down a path towards low self-esteem, anxiety and low mood. Unhelpful perfectionism is where you set very hig ..read more

“how you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” ― Rupi Kaur   Self-love describes how you feel about and treat yourself.  Self-love involves being able to appreciate your own value and worth. It also involves taking steps to optimise your happiness and wellbeing. So, nurturing self-love means taking steps to work on your relationship with yourself.  As you begin practising self-love you may start to celebrate yourself and your strengths more, take more time to listen to and honour your needs and to do more things for your happiness and good health.  However, wh ..read more

We always mention Self-care and it's important for us to care about ourselves first. But one particular category of people we don't talk about self-care is parents. Why are parents not given attention? Why do we forget such important people in our lives? Parents should care for themselves too. Why self-care is needed, particularly now for parents? The pandemic which we thought would last a few months turned out to stay with us for 2 years. The world was on pause. Both parents were on their feet 24*7. Working parents or stay-at-home parents all were busy with their families and looking after ..read more

  Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be just so confident? You may have asked yourself – “how do they believe in themselves so completely when I am always doubting myself and wondering if I am good enough?” … You may have even convinced yourself that they are just more skilled, more talented, more intelligent, more attractive or more experienced than you are and that this is why they can be so confident… HOWEVER, often the reason that someone else is more confident than you, isn’t to do with what they know, how smart they are or what they look like. As humans, we all have str ..read more

  Life is full of ups and downs, for young people as well as adults. Their ups and downs may seem insignificant to us as adults, but they are there, and our acknowledgement, acceptance and understanding of their feelings and experiences will have a profound impact on their interpretation of relationships, emotions, love, respect and most importantly, it will shape the way they view themselves and their mental wellbeing – now, and in the future.  Here are a few ideas for using the power of self-care to help children and young people become more introspective and aware of their physic ..read more

  The earth’s seasons are not so dissimilar to the natural ebb and flow of life itself. While we all have differing day-to-day experiences, each season offers unique gifts that we all can embrace if we choose. For example, while spring’s warmth and light may evoke feelings of rejuvenation or new beginnings, the coolness and darkness of winter offer us an opportunity to embrace stillness, slow down, and restore ourselves. As Angie Weiland-Crosby beautifully describes, “Winter knows to hush, still, listen, so the soul can speak.”Here are a few winter wellness strategies to help you tune int ..read more

“In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” - Tony Robbins Habits can work for you, or against you. Good habits are quoted as the key to success, but bad habits can damage your happiness, health, and motivation!   Take stock of your habits right now with these questions:   What is working for you?  Which habits aren’t working for you?  Do your current habits help you or hinder you from reaching your goals?  Here are some n ..read more

I’m here to share with you six unique ways of taking care of yourself. These practices will benefit your physical and mental wellbeing, as well as give you the tools you may need to process challenging situations as the world around you changes. The past year has been more challenging than ever on the nation’s mental health, and as schools and workplaces begin to open up and “normal” life resumes, this may leave you feeling more anxious than usual. If this resonates with you, please know that you are not alone and that professional support is available to you. The good news is that there a ..read more

You are such a failure. You are too fat and unattractive, you need to lose weight. You are not good enough at your job. You are hopeless – why did you ever make that mistake. Everyone must be thinking that you are so [boring/unattractive/slow/silly] … Would you ever say these words to someone that you loved and cared about?  Could you imagine talking to your child, your best-friend or your parent in this way?  Yet if you were to tune-in to the voice in your mind, your own internal narrative, do you find that sometimes you talk to yourself in a harsh and critical way? Many people are ..read more

What is self esteem? Self esteem is a term that we use to describe our overall sense of worth or the value that we place upon ourselves as human beings. Self esteem has formally been defined as “how much somebody appreciates and likes themselves and perceives themselves to be a valuable person” (Rosenberg, 1965). This judgement of ourselves can have a significant impact on how we feel about ourselves as well as how we view ourselves. Researchers think that self-esteem can ebb and flow throughout our lives, depending on a variety of factors. Argyle (2008) put forward that self esteem may be in ..read more