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Expert advice on divorce, custody, and family law from Nanda Davis, a female divorce attorney in Roanoke, VA. I opened Davis Law Practice in Roanoke, Virginia, in 2014. Since then, I have built a firm that specializes in taking on a limited number of clients to ensure they all get the attention their cases deserve. I love my work, both inside and outside of the courtroom, and I am continually..
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10M ago
If you live with or are separated from a high conflict personality, every interaction can be upsetting and exhausting. Everything turns into a fight. Sometimes it’s verbal abuse. Sometimes it’s the silent treatment. It can seem like nothing you say or do is right. Some high conflict personalities have personality disorders like narcissism, borderline, histrionic, or antisocial. Many high conflict people have traits of these disorders without having the full blown disorder, but are still nonetheless very difficult to deal with.1 If you find yourself dealing with someone exhibiting high conflict ..read more
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1y ago
People in family law disputes often feel hurt and broken by the actions of their spouse. Adultery, domestic violence, lying, belittling, and emotional abuse are some of the common concerns we see. Their hurt is so deep that it has become a physical sensation and they can never imagine a time when they won’t be consumed by their anger and grief. No one can hurt you quite as badly as those you have deeply loved. Because of the hurt and anger, people often don’t consider mediation for a custody dispute.
Why Mediation Can Be A Great Option
It might seem strange that I suggest you come to med ..read more
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2y ago
There’s no doubt that there’s a lot to be anxious about these days. From the pandemic to politics and the economy, it’s safe to say that we’re all feeling a little stressed. But if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, chances are your anxiety is heightened to unhealthy levels. Here are four reasons how being in a relationship with a narcissist will exponentially increase your anxiety:
1. Gaslighting
The term gaslighting comes from the 1944 film Gaslight, in which the husband manipulated the wife into thinking that she was crazy. Today it’s used when one partner a ..read more
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2y ago
The pattern of dancing with a narcissist always starts the same way. The narcissist’s reaction is extreme compared to the situation. Maybe she bursts into tears. Maybe he starts shouting curse words. Maybe it’s at you. Maybe it’s in front of the kids or the neighbors who stopped by. Maybe it’s at the poor contractor who is finishing the repairs in the basement.
Their Need for Reassurance
Immediately afterwards the narcissist needs your reassurance. Reassurance that you still love her. Reassurance that you’re not leaving him. Reassurance that you still think she’s a good person. Notice that the ..read more
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2y ago
Many people struggle in dealing with regret after toxic marriages end. Feelings of embarrassment, guilt and anger can be common. They may feel like they threw away years of their lives, or they may feel like they somehow failed because they didn’t leave sooner. While these feelings are a natural part of the grieving process, ultimately my hope is that you can give yourself grace and forgiveness. If you’re dealing with regret, it may be helpful to keep the following in mind:
You likely had good reasons for staying as long as you did.
Maybe you stayed because of your children. Maybe you stayed b ..read more
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2y ago
Even though you are no longer in a romantic relationship with your ex, it is still important for the two of you to communicate when co-parenting your children. Many people may think they are doing a good job of communicating with the other parent, not realizing that there may be room for improvement. The following are the top five communication errors in co-parenting I see between separated parents:
1. Using Your Children as Messengers for Co-Parenting.
The biggest mistake I see separated parents make in their communication with each other is communicating through their children. Most people k ..read more
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2y ago
No doubt life’s ups and downs are easier to handle when you have good friends by your side. You might imagine the early stages of your divorce in the company of the guys drinking beers or on the back porch with your girlfriends sipping chardonnay. But what happens when you’re in the middle of divorce hell, and suddenly those you thought were your closest friends are nowhere to be found?
Feeling abandoned by your friends at such a vulnerable time is hard. You might feel angry as you think about all the times you’ve been there for your friends or resent the fact that if the roles were rever ..read more
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2y ago
You’ve had a conversation with your spouse and you’re ready to cry. But you’re not sure whether they are tears of hurt, frustration or both. Your spouse didn’t raise their voice or use bad words and maybe he/she was even calm during the conversation. You might even start to wonder if you’re overreacting. Is this normal? Are you the problem? Here are conversational clues you’re in a relationship with a toxic spouse:
They Ignore Conversation Boundaries
Maybe he wants to repeatedly rehash the relationship you had with your ex. Maybe he mocks your sister’s poor life choices. These are not producti ..read more
How to Deal with Pandemic Stress in the Middle of Divorce, Custody Battles & Unhealthy Relationships
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2y ago
For all my current clients, those who think they one day may be my client, and for those reading this post wondering if divorce is right for you:
Wow, what a stressful couple of weeks this has been. Even under the best of circumstances the uncertainty of who will get sick next, what’s going to happen with this pandemic to those we love, this country, our economy, it is enough to make anyone feel like more is on their plate than they can handle. When you add in all the negative things my clients already deal with—abusive relationships, caring for children without help, angry exes whose so ..read more
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2y ago
I recently attended a seminar taught by clinical child psychologist, Edward Farber (author of Raising the Kid You Love with the Ex You Hate) on what he calls “Resist and Refuse” cases—when a child resists or refuses to see one parent in a divorce or separation. Dr. Farber focused on those cases where the child’s refusal to see a parent was unjustified and acknowledged that cases where the rejection was justified (like abuse and neglect cases) present a very different topic.
This comes up frequently in my cases. I have represented preferred parents and rejected parents, and i ..read more