There's a big difference between being a victim (having been harmed) and adopting a victim mentality. And the difference relates to how an individual responds to adversity. In this episode Tracy and Debra explore the 6 ways a  victim mentality can impact how individuals perceive and respond to conflicts.  So, why is it so important to address victim mentality when working with clients? Because victim mentality can escalate conflict, can leave individuals feeling powerless and helpless, and can prolong the healing process and hinder emotional well-being.  But they also share 9 ..read more

Co-parent communication can be one of the biggest challenges both during and after divorce. Co-parenting apps are a lifesaver for many partners who have difficulty in communicating about or making decisions regarding their children. This week we had the pleasure of hosting Stephen Nixon, the Founder of TalkingParents, on the podcast to talk about the reasons you might want to introduce a co-parenting app to your clients or your co-parent. Co-parenting apps like TalkingParents can significantly reduce conflict, streamline communication, save money, and protect your peace. And if you're in a p ..read more

We can’t believe it’s finally time to share this news. We’ve been working behind the scenes for months to get ready to present this incredible event and now we get to announce it to the world. Registration is now open for the Free Save Your Sanity Divorce Summit - the first ever online event featuring 27 professional certified divorce coaches. It’s our dream, honestly, and it’s happening April 22nd through the 26th. This thing is big - it’s 5 full days and includes 25 individual talks given by DCA trained coaches covering 6 topic areas including preparing for divorce, co-parenting and cu ..read more

Just because we have the word “divorce” in our job title doesn’t mean that we encourage divorce . As a matter of fact, you might be surprised to learn that we sometimes help save marriages.  It’s true. In fact, our favorite time to work with clients is when they are still trying to make that difficult decision of whether they should stay married or get divorced. Because we are actually happiness advocates. One of our most important jobs is to help clients self-discover where and how they are most likely to be able to live a fulfilling and happy life. And sometimes that means that by work ..read more

We're excited for you to meet Nada Hariri, the DCA Director of Learning and Development for the Arabian Gulf. Nada is the first certified divorce coach in the region and has worked with hundreds of Arab clients all over the gulf area. She is an experienced coach, group facilitator, workshop leader, author and is currently pursuing her Master's in family counseling. Nada is a revolutionary. She is lifting the taboo of talking about divorce and is seeing a both great need and a great desire for divorce support services for families in her part of the world. She is committed to training and cert ..read more

Nowhere is planning more important than when we are trying to communicate in the midst of big emotions or conflict. And today, we dig into the idea of using scripts or planning what you want to say and how you want to say it. As ADR specialists, we’ve seen hundreds of conversations and negotiations go off the rails because one party failed to be intentional about their communication. We both spend quite a bit of time with clients working on their conflict communication skills by identifying goals, developing strategies, and crafting scripts. In today's episode, we review the 4 basic communic ..read more

Today we're shining a light on two of the biggest struggles faced by those of us running our businesses solo. And we can tell you from years of experience working with and training certified divorce coaches, the majority of us are independent practitioners. From juggling multiple hats to navigating the sometimes lonely path of entrepreneurship, we're doing it all. And, not everyone makes it. Solopreneurship is not just a business venture; it's a courageous journey where we are the architects of our own destiny, navigating the challenges of self-reliance, embracing the solitude of innovation ..read more

We're thrilled to be joined this week by Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling.  Jackie says that Divorced Girl Smiling (DGS) is like going to Starbucks with your friend to talk about your divorce and your love life. DGS is about community — the community is those facing divorce and those who have dedicated their careers to helping people in their shoes. Today we talk about why community is so vitally important for those experiencing divorce and how the right community can improve outcomes for everyone. One of Jackie's passions is matching people with the right professionals ..read more

Money fears are pretty common in divorce. Clients may be afraid they don’t know enough about money, won’t get enough money or they’ll have to give up too much money. Or they might have concerns that their partner will be difficult and they’ll have to fight to get what’s “fair”. By the way, most of us call “fair” the 4-letter F word in divorce because each person’s definition of “fair” is different and it’s the source of so much disagreement. In this week’s episode, we dive into the first few important steps when working with money fears. When we are able to dial down fear, we also make it pos ..read more

No one likes feeling hopeless and most clients who choose mediation are desperate to avoid the cost and stress of a trial, but how can we help when they feel like it's not going well and they're running out of options? Today we’re going to give you and your client some proven strategies to try when they’re feeling hopeless in their mediation process. We start with differentiating between making a wish and having hope. While we often say "I hope this or that happens", we mean we are wishing it will happen because hope involves taking action toward a goal, while a wish is out of your control. A ..read more