Ep 139: Communication Challenges in Special Assignments
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by Cyndi Doyle with Heather Williams
3w ago
Communication and connection are a challenge for all of us in law enforcement relationships. There are some extra special challenges when you're on call all the time or you're in situations where you just can't talk due to being in a special assignment such as undercover work or maybe the part of a SWAT team. Heather Williams, a law enforcement professional, turned police psychologist, and SWAT spouse talks about the unique challenges of special units, their impact on relationships and strategies to communicate and connect.   Premier First Responder Psychological Services Premier1strepond ..read more
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Ep 138: Let Family In
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by Cyndi Doyle with Brett and Danielle Koss
2M ago
“I just don't want to burden my spouse with what I experience on the job” is a way of protecting the people that you love. I always thought my husband was open only to find out later that this happened a few times within our relationship. Most of the time an officer's spouse and family sense that something is up. It bleeds over. While protecting the family is noble, it is also a way that an officer can avoid talking about difficult things. Our relationships need to involve trust. Officers, trust that your spouse can handle what you are sharing, and as a spouse trust that an officer will naviga ..read more
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Ep 137: Workicide
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by Cyndi Doyle with Stephanie Kiesow
2M ago
We have all worked in a toxic work environment due to the workplace culture, co-workers, supervisors, or the work itself.     Stephanie Kiesow is a former law enforcement officer, cop kid, and cop’s wife.  She saw how work impacted her parents, their mood, and in turn the family.  She started her career in law enforcement at 18 and in 2011, when her fiancé had a pending IA, lost him to death by suicide.  This kicked off what Stephanie calls her obsessive curiosity about suicide and how the workplace contributes to the permanent decision.    Stephanie is currently working on her ..read more
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Ep 136: To Hell and Back
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by Cyndi Doyle with John Blumenthal (Ret.)
3M ago
In this podcast episode, host Cyndi Doyle interviews John Blumenthal, a Retired Master Sergeant (Ret.) with the Oklahoma City Police Department. Blumenthal shares his personal journey of struggling with trauma and making poor choices, which led to the deterioration of his relationships with his family. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing wellness and seeking help. He discusses his involvement in peer support and wellness programs, including his work with the Warriors Rest Foundation and the National Cops Program. Blumenthal encourages law enforcement officers to seek support and make ..read more
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Ep 135: Burnout
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by Cyndi Doyle with Deana Kahle
3M ago
We all know that this lifestyle means long hours and lots of stress. Loss of sleep only impacts stress further.  When does stress become burnout?   Burnout is oftentimes a precursor to more serious mental health issues. If we could catch burnout or even work to prevent burnout, officers would be safer on the job and relationships are potentially more stable. If spouses could catch burnout, they might continue to have patience and compassion.  With burnout, we all wear a little thin.    How do we identify burnout?  How is law enforcement burnout unique?&n ..read more
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Ep 134: Communication and Trauma Response after Critical Incidents
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by Cyndi Doyle with Katie Bingner
4M ago
Katie Bingner is a counselor in Maryland, a law enforcement spouse, and a communications coach for law enforcement couples. I just assumed that her wife worked in Maryland. I was wrong. She works in Washington, DC. That led me to ask about January 6th and come to find out, her wife was in the thick of it. What started as an interview about connection and communication in law enforcement couples ended up being a conversation about how they were both impacted by the incident on January 6th. Katie talks about how their previous struggles that almost tore them apart made them stronger as a couple ..read more
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Ep 133: Making Your Holiday Happy
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by Cyndi Doyle
5M ago
There is a holiday song that always makes my husband and I laugh. It is Bob Rivers singing "The Twelve Pains of Christmas," and it's funny because it is sadly and hilariously true. The lyrics are the first thing about Christmas that's such a pain to me and he goes through a list. The first one is finding a Christmas tree, rigging up the lights, and hangovers. The fourth one is sending Christmas cards, five months of bills, and the sixth one is facing in-laws. He goes through other stressors as well like finding gifts, crying kids, charity donations, crowds, parking, you get the point. We all k ..read more
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Ep 131: Wives on Duty
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by Cyndi Doyle with Allison Uribe
5M ago
Before I met Allison Uribe, I came across her book, Cuffs and Coffee: A Devotional for Wives of America's Law Enforcement Officers. When we met in 2019 at a conference in Ohio where we were both speaking, I realized that Allison was not only a lot of fun but that she had grit. She will fess up to not handling situations the best way possible early on in her relationship and that she and her husband haven’t always had smooth sailing in their marriage.  What saved her relationship was when she started walking her “faith walk.” She realized she needed to behave differently in her marriage an ..read more
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Ep 130: Retirement in Dual Law Enforcement Relationships
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by Cyndi Doyle with Cathy and Javier Bustos
6M ago
No one I know is more out in our community as a dual law enforcement couple sharing their story than   Cathy and Javier Bustos. I interviewed them several years ago on episode 46 when they were both still working in law enforcement and growing with their company, That Peer Support Couple. They shared their unique lens on being an officer and a spouse to each other. Now they've both retired and I wanted to find out what it has been like for them as officers and spouses in retirement.   www.cathyandjavi.com cathyandjavi@gmail.com cbustos@warriorsrestfoundation.org&n ..read more
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Encore: The Overtime Trap
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by Cyndi Doyle with Jason and Katie Hoschouer
6M ago
The holiday season can be challenging for any couple. For law enforcement couples, we know that it's going to bring an absence to regularly scheduled events and rituals. What can be kind of nice is the increased need for off-duty officers at shopping centers and churches, or the overtime that comes with having to work events, or the holidays themselves. That extra dump of income can be really nice and helpful, and even make the separation worth it during the holidays. It can also get couples in trouble if they plan on the cash to catch them up with bills that they've incurred throughout the ye ..read more
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