Lenny Baker Blog
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Lenny has escaped a cult, acquired a disability, adopted a cat, is trilingual and values kindness and authenticity above all else. Follow her journey as an evangelical, her thoughts and opinions and more.
Lenny Baker Blog
2y ago
Something I keep having to deal with is that in religion, everything comes with an agenda.
When I was in a certain Christian mission organisation, we were taught to see every interaction as an opportunity to share the gospel. We talked to strangers at shops, on buses, and in pubs. If I had a birthday party, I invited mix of Christians and “open” non Christians so there could be spiritual conversation. I was told by one leader “if you haven’t shared the gospel (tract booklet) by the third time meeting someone, then move on and find someone else”.
It’s really hard to de-program that kind of br ..read more
Lenny Baker Blog
2y ago
The leader controlled where I lived, when I worked, who could stay at my house, who I dated – this is spiritual abuse
Permission was required for every major and minor decision – this is behaviour control
If you acted differently to the expectations of the group, you were looked down upon and outcast; if I married someone outside of the organisation, I would be kicked out – this is shunning
You had to reveal private information about yourself including sexual history and group members reported on each other – this is information control
When I made an official complaint that I had been underpa ..read more
Lenny Baker Blog
2y ago
A poem including things said to me by colleagues in the organisation I was a part of. See also the Billy Graham Rule.
Once upon an Autumn
I bought this beautiful skirt
spring
Why are you dressed so nice
summer
Put on your jacket
You should cover up
Because the pastor’s here
winter
You’ll take off that jacket
Won’t you
summer
We shouldn’t too much spend time together
Because you’re a woman
They told me it might be dangerous
spring
Why are you dressed so formal
summer
Is someone else here
(Are you alone in your apartment?)
winter
I’ve already stayed too long alone with you
(5 minutes helping wi ..read more
Lenny Baker Blog
2y ago
Nearly everyone experiences some kind of difficult or stressful event in their lives, like loss of a loved one, a traffic collision, or a major life transition. But everyone responds to potentially harmful situations in different ways.
Certain people face extremely dangerous events such as as life threatening situation, witnessing a death, or experiencing sexual violence. Rather than exam stress or a short term illness, this is what we mean by a traumatic experience. It is known that particular groups of people are more likely to be exposed to trauma such as refugees, women and children experi ..read more