Are you asking yourself, "How do I tell my wife she's autistic?" People regularly book consultation with me asking this question - I get it in the comments too. In this video I share what I tell my clients. Neurodiversity in relationships can be confusing, and if you think your wife or your partner is autistic (some still use the term Aspergers), then you need an informed strategy for how to bring this up to her! 00:00 In troduction to Neurodiverse Relationship Advice 00:04 Suspecting Autism in a Partner 00:51 Why Directly Suggesting Autism Can Be Problematic 03:47 Approaching Differences with ..read more

Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, I share a personal story about my autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which she uses to manage her social interactions.  00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships 00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story 02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive 03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal 04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone 08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relatio ..read more

Let’s talk about the significance of openly discussing sexuality and intimacy with our partners, particularly in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, I address common hurdles such as misunderstandings, unfounded assumptions, and the way past traumas can cloud our interactions. I stress the importance of reflective listening, nurturing curiosity, and recognizing our partner's unique perspective to foster a stronger connection and enhance sexual satisfaction.    00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations 00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality 01:33 Cultural and ..read more

This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.  00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert 00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner 00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment 01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships 02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication 03:33 Educational Advice: Learning Abou ..read more

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.  In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for  partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships. The final step navigating your neurod ..read more

In the 5th episode or a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode ..read more

Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics.    Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 ..read more

In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, u ..read more

In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-tradi ..read more

Debunking the Myth that Everyone is Narcissistic   Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are ab ..read more