William Shakespeare famously wrote:  “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts”    And we all do. We all play a part in our world. Albeit a large part or a small part, a cameo role, a supporting actor or an extra. We audition for a role we want. We may get what we want or we may have to settle. Then, we dress up in the respective costume and get up on stage. We play our part. We have our script. We go through the motions, then we exit stage left. Show over. T ..read more

There’s a major difference between drifting throughout our life, on auto pilot, and actually showing up! What’s the difference?  Well, if you have a goal, have you achieved it? Or is it sitting at the back of your mind collecting dust? “one day” you think. “I’ll get to it one day.” Or “I’ll start monday” or next year… or the year after that.  That’s drifting…. drifting down the stream of life. Who the fuck want’s to drift through out their life? Then… there’s showing up! Showing up is aligning yourself with what you want. It’s deciding what it is you truly desire and aligning yourse ..read more

HELLO LOVELIES …. It’s all happening here in Sydney this weekend… We’re all being “let out”! After being in lockdown for 4 months or so (I’ve lost count lol) it’s time for us to get on with “life with Covid”. You’d think there would be this overall collective sigh of relief. But weirdly, there isn’t. Instead some people are ready to hit the ground running, while others are terrified. Why are some people terrified? Well… when I’ve challenged clients who are experiencing this anxiety, the initial response was that they were unsettled about catching Covid. A perfectly reasonable and accept ..read more

Most people looking into my previous marriage, including myself at the time, would assume that my marriage ended because of my ex husband. After all, he was seemingly the root cause of most of our issues.  But here’s the thing. It really wasn’t his fault. Yes, we could split hairs all day on “who said what”, “who did what” But at the end of the day we were both adults that committed a lifetime together and vowed to figure it out along the way. This is really where we failed.   By the way….I’m not completely oblivious to my contribution to the demise too.  It takes two to tango ..read more

This time of year can be completely overwhelming. Seeing happily married friends with their kids live it up during the holidays can be really tough. This might be triggering a lot of resentment and sadness for you. Sadness for your past or what could’ve of should’ve been.   Being newly single with kids these holidays, you might be finding it tough to adjust to this new normal of life or you may be years into a divorce and you don’t get to see your own kids these holidays and yet it’s still so incredibly hard to adjust.   For most it can be bitter sweet. I know when I miss out on pre ..read more

As I get older, I notice more. I learn more. I account for my time more. The years are going so much faster now and before I know it, there’s another year gone. Just like that.  What I notice is that at the end of each year most people swear they’ll get healthier or do their own thing the next Christmas, yet the next Christmas/New Year comes around and nothing changes.  Why? It’s so simple, it’s insulting – here it is: IF YOU FAIL TO PLAN : YOU ARE PLANNING TO FAIL – Benjamin Franklin. We all start the year off with the best intentions. We hone in on what we want, or what we don’t w ..read more

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR THOUGHTS PRACTICE GRATITUDE SERVE OTHERS It’s fair to say that 2020 has tested us all. It’s not hard to give into the negativity that keeps breading through social media, news outlets and other people. We’re drowning in bad news and if we don’t turn off the news theres literally no escaping it. As a result of being seduced by such consistent bad news you might find yourself in poor company with your self, and your own thoughts.   You may be experiencing an especially tough time at home during these times. Being cooped up with a spouse that you might be in ..read more