Are you wondering if relationship coach certification is going to be your next big thing? Now that I’ve trained and certified hundreds of top relationship coaches in the world over the last decade, and been a relationship coach for over 20 years, I know how hard it is to ignore that tug on your heart… Read More » The post 4 Steps to Relationship Coach Certification appeared first on Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice, Tips, and Help Articles ..read more

If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, then you have heard a thing or two about The Six Intimacy Skills™. Well, I have a confession about them. When I first heard about them, I thought they sounded stupid. I remember thinking, “I am NOT going to do THAAAAT!” I thought they were… Read More » The post How to Become an Adored Wife appeared first on Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice, Tips, and Help Articles ..read more

It’s so dreary to find out you’re married to someone with bouts of exhaustion and depression interspersed with manic behavior. It feels like a bait-and-switch. How are you ever going to have a great partnership when there are just those two extremes, nothing in the middle, and no normal husband behavior? It’s scary because not… Read More » The post How to Fix Marriage to a Bipolar Husband appeared first on Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice, Tips, and Help Articles ..read more

If you miss snuggling on the couch, dreaming about your future together, and spontaneous dance moves in the hallway, it’s disappointing when that goes missing. It’s lonely and sad. Without love, there’s just work and chores and sleep. All the joy is sucked out of your marriage. But if you want to feel desired again, get pats on the butt, and see his face light up just because you walked in, you can get it all back better than ever. You can have deep conversations and silly ones too. I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t experienced the contrast between a loveless marriage and a healed one my ..read more

It’s annoying when you’re trying to have a normal conversation and he either clams up and gets cold or raises his voice or starts arguing with you. You just want to say “Knock it off!” and have him calm down and relax so you can have a normal conversation. Why is he so riled up today anyway? I used to be so confused about why my husband would look exasperated or rub his forehead when all I’d said was, “Why don’t you order new checks online instead of physically going to the bank?” But it turns out, John is not a defensive guy. Without meaning to or even realizing it, I was offending him. I di ..read more

Finding out your guy doesn’t love you back feels so rejecting. It hurts like crazy and crushes your self-esteem. It feels like you’ve been let down in the worst way when you least expected it. Your head races with terrible thoughts about how this could have happened, whether it’s hopeless, and what it means for your future, which can seem so dark. Does it mean you’re not lovable? First of all, no! It doesn’t mean that at all. In a moment I’ll give you proof, but more importantly, if what you want is for him to respond to you like an irresistible magnet so you feel attractive and desired, let’s ..read more

I remember what lack of intimacy was like in my marriage—terrible. It made me feel like what’s the point of even being married?! Every interaction was a painful reminder that we were NOT having deep conversations, flirting, or laughing together. There was no emotional intimacy and then no physical intimacy either. I felt rejected and neglected. I did not feel desired, something that’s really important to me. Since we’d started out with so much connection and playfulness before, I knew what I was missing, which made it even worse! I couldn’t tell myself, “This is just what happens when you’ve ..read more

First, a disclaimer: A coach recently shared with me that she decided to become a coach, even though she didn’t love her husband and believed she never would, because she just wanted to be kinder. She believed Relationship Coach Training would help her become kind, which was her goal—not to fall in love with him. She was actually kind of guarded against that. Then she spent a year becoming an expert on the 6 Intimacy Skills, practicing them at the highest level with her classmates. She surprised herself and did start to notice what a great man she had married decades ago. She came to a coach ..read more

It feels terrible when the guy who used to trip over himself trying to help and serve you is now only interested in staring at his phone or computer, staying at work all the time or playing video games. What a disappointment. You set out to be partners, but he isn’t doing much to contribute, which leaves so much more work for you. You don’t need me to tell you when your husband is not being supportive because you already know you don’t feel supported. The bigger question is, why isn’t he supporting you and what can you do about it? But first things first. Here are the signs he’s not supportive ..read more

Nothing feels lonelier than just eating with your husband in silence or living under the same roof but never having the deep conversations you’re craving. It feels terrible when the emotional intimacy goes missing like that. I still remember how miserable that was when it was happening at my house. So how do you get back to sharing your dreams, desires, and the details of your day? Here’s what worked for me and might work for you too. 1. Restore emotional safety One thing that shuts down conversations fast is when it’s not safe to say anything, for either one of you. Maybe you’re afraid he’s ..read more