Has your partner said they want to change their substance use or behavior, but hasn't taken action on it yet? Today I'll talk about a common mistake you may be making when it comes to supporting your partner's journey.  Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to join the Your Partner's Addiction program ..read more

Have you ever felted forced to set a boundary or make a decision you didn’t want to make about your relationship because of your partner’s addiction? Today I’m going to share a client story to illustrate how this could be creating a lot of pain in your life.  You’ll learn how your brain is holding you hostage, what to do instead. Mentioned in today’s episode: The Freedom of Choice in Addiction  The Your Partner’s Addiction coaching program Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn ..read more

In today's episode I'll explore how this one little phrase, "But, I love them" can become an excuse for you to give up the things you truly want in a relationship and in life.  To register for this weekend's Create Your Boundaries workshop, text "workshop" to 971-257-1615 or click here: https://www.karilynivers.com/workshop Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn ..read more

Have you ever found yourself questioning if the problems in your relationship stem from you or your partner's actions? I share a story about a client who grappled with her husband's marijuana use, and how it affected their relationship. Throughout this episode, we discuss how to reframe the "is it me or them" question to focus on both partners' roles and the importance of setting healthy boundaries to maintain a genuine connection. To learn more about the Create Your Boundaries workshop, click here: karilynivers.com/workshop Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the po ..read more

Today I'm answering your questions! We cover: Dealing with unpredictable behavior Letting go when it's no longer good for you Not letting your life revolve around your partner Encouraging your partner to be "productive" Is their addiction really worth the negatives? Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn ..read more

Today's podcast will answer questions about how to come to terms with your family being disconnected by addiction, how to stay focused at work instead of worrying about your partner drinking and lying about it, and the biggest obstacle we face when setting boundaries. For more information and the full show notes, visit karilynivers.com/podcast/s2e6 Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn ..read more

In the Season 2 premiere, I answer your questions about being in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction. I’ll cover questions about boundaries, to fears of making your partner’s condition worse, to dealing with disapproving family. For a list of each question with clickable links to jump to the question you'd like to listen to, visit karilynivers.com/podcast/s2e1 and click the "bulleted list" icon in the podcast player.  Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn ..read more

This week I'm answering 10 questions from YOU about relationships with someone struggling with an addiction. Looking for a specific question? See timestamps below.  For more information and full show notes, visit karilynivers.com/podcast/26 00:00:46 - If you've left your addictive partner, but they are now in recovery, is it safe to go back? 00:04:31 - Examples of couples who have recovered? 00:06:56 - Can you ever forgive? How can I see my partner as a person after everything he's done? 00:09:44 - How to deal with guilt after leaving an addict? 00:11:23 - How to deal with guilt for ..read more

Overwhelm is your brain's shut off valve. Helpful if you're trying to conserve energy, but not helpful if your relationship sucks and you need to do something about it. In today's episode you'll learn: Common thoughts that create overwhelm A simple shift to move into action Support the show Ready to implement what you're learning from the podcast? Click here to work with Karilyn. Has the podcast supported you in your journey? Share the love! Click here to become a supporter of the podcast ..read more

As a follow up to my most popular podcast episode (How to Deal With Lying), today I explore WHY your partner lies to you. Hint: there is only ONE reason. To schedule a free consultation with me this week, click here. For more information and the full show notes, visit karilynivers.com/podcast/s2e30 ..read more