Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore their trust and connection in their marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you're just now beginning to address the addiction, or if you've been struggling for many years and..
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
6d ago
How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain?
Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not knowing what to say to help her feel comforted?
For a wife, not getting the understanding and validation she needs creates hurt and anger, and the conversations just stall out leaving them both alone.
In this episode I share with you one of the main reasons why that happens and 2 things you can implement to change that dynamic.
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Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
1w ago
Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse where you're talking about specific actions that he's committed to do but then doesn't follow through?
For a wife, it can feel really frustrating if there’s a lack of follow through because she often receives that as him not being committed or caring enough.
For a husband, it can be frustrating because if he’s working on things but then feels picked apart and like his efforts aren’t enough This leads to shutting down and distance.
So in today’s episode I want to share with you how are you can both navigate this together in a way that doesn ..read more
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
2w ago
"We've been spinning our wheels for 9 months... I'm in a worst place now than the day I discovered everything."
A couple reached out to me a few hours before recording this episode. They were both discouraged and frustrated add the slow pace of the process of healing.
No matter what they did, she just felt stuck and like she couldn't move forward because some key things in their approach were missing.
In this episode I share with you the top 3 things that can cause significant damage in a relationship and prevent it from healing.
I want to share these things with you and exactly how you can re ..read more
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
3w ago
This road to healing your marriage can be agonizing. So many people wonder how long will this take? They feel like they might not be able to hold on much longer.
The good news is that it’s actually not based on a specific timeline or a number of years. Rather it’s based on how quickly you can learn the skills that you need to have new experiences together.
Some couples can feel like they are in a completely different place in just a matter of weeks because they focus on learning the skills necessary to get them there.
What skills do you need to learn? This is ..read more
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
1M ago
After the discovery of pornography use, it shatters the foundation of the entire relationship. Naturally, it becomes the center of most conversations as you try to resolve the issues and pain it causes.
Then after you start making some progress, many couples wonder how long they need to keep talking about things? They often tend to have the same conversations over and over again, so they wonder what the next steps are and when they can move forward without always talking about it.
In this episode, I share with you, the key indicators that you're ready to move forward and how you can find closu ..read more
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
1M ago
March 18th: Join the free 5 Day 'Overcome Your Urges' Challenge to get tools to resolve the root cause of your urges so you can eliminate them instead of resisting them.
-- Episode Summary --
Couples can very easily get stuck when a husband has a slip up, acts like things are normal, and then his wife finds out that he searched for something and didn’t tell her.
This can cause a wife to spiral into distrust, self protection, anger and fear all over again and it has such a big impact on the relationship and their sense of progress together.
Her wall goes ..read more
Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
1M ago
The idea of being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming.
After all, a “personality disorder” is a serious thing…
But what if people slinging this diagnosis have been wrong the whole time?
What if there was different a way to understand why someone engages in destructive behaviors?
In this episode, I do a deep dive in unpacking narcissism and why this label causes more damage to both people.
I share what really drives negative behaviors in a relationship and how you can actually change without needing medication or some other intervention to control symptoms.
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Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
2M ago
Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use.
Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use.
As time goes on and he develops the skills and make the changes necessary, HE can become the source of safety for her and the relationship.
And when he is the source of safety, she can let the wall down and feel more connected and close with him.
In this episode, I share with you three different ways that you can free safety in your relationship.
For therapy with Sam:
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Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
2M ago
It's very easy for men to switch one bad coping mechanism (pornography) for another (food, video games, social media, TV, etc.).
Some people might see those things as far less harmful, so they allow themselves to do it.
However, swapping different coping mechanisms is actually really bad because the root of the issue remains unresolved, which sets you up to continue to spiral.
Why does this happen and how can we avoid it?
Check out the today's episode and get solutions to resolve this problem.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
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Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
2M ago
In a relationship, having a strong feeling of security is so important.
When pornography addiction or habit is discovered, it completely undermines the security that she feels.
This causes lots of issues for both people and the relationship itself – a wall goes up, there's distrust, fear, inadequacy, and emptiness often felt by both people.
In today's episode, I'm sharing with you a specific tool you can implement right away so you can build security back into your marriage.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
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